The institution of marriage

[newman]

People spend their whole lives now waiting for some whirl-wind, intoxicating love that only happens in the movies or silly women's romance novels.

No, I get those, whirl-wind, intoxicating loves, lasts about 4 months, then it wears out, she gives me dirty looks, and it's time for a new one.   

Some men just look for a woman who hates them and buy her a house. Saves time.

[RationalThought110]

They were well chosen, their strengths and weaknesses were taken into account, beliefs, life styles and matched on that. They had known of each other prior to the marriage, and both looked each other over.

And the contract was made.

My father had little education, but had vast skills in his job, mum highly educated and already had a child, and knew how to raise us. Mum needed husband that had a job and could support her, dad required a wife and wanted kids. It was simple.

They started as friends in the marriage at any stage if it didn't work another match would of been made.

By as fate had it they both clicked at the start and they never looked back.

There was times when it was hard in anyones life, but this is where knowing your partner and having something there more than love, comes into it.

As mum says they were two sides of the same coin, once joined it was just so wrong to be apart.

They spent time apart when my father was at sea, but then they were together 24 hours a day 7 days a week for 25 years until he died.

We created family businesses, mum work along side dad everyday, what one lacked the other would make up as their strength. Together they were an unbeatable force.

As the saying goes one stick is eay to break, many sticks together as one is nearly impossible.

This was the founding idea of my family unit.

So were the families of your parents very close? 


What would you say are the positive and negative aspects of arranged marriages? 

[Kiwi]

So were the families of your parents very close? 
What would you say are the positive and negative aspects of arranged marriages? 

The families were not close.

Negative aspects same as any marriage the partner can be a complete gold digger either side, marrying because they want money and not have to work. Very common.

Positive saves dating.

[Uziyahu]

Should there somehow be higher standards for people being allowed to marry?

Oh sure, make it even harder for me to get married!