"it is rabbinical like the way you follow it, or less like the way the rest of us follow up..not saying my way is the right way..and that's the point of this. "
I dont belive that their many besides you and 1 more guy (mabe a few more- dont know) who reject the oral Law. I gave you sources before to check out, and you never get back to me. Is it hard? YES, bu lets not deny the truth and try making it false in order to make it easier for ourselves. Check into the Religion you claim to follow, and follow it correctly. Dont make excuses in order to modify your personal needs and desires. (WE all sin, yes, but the TRUTH is the TRUTH and we have to strive VERY HARD to follow it).
I don't reject any law...I have lots of questions...and certain things i disagree with, but that doesn't make me correct when I disagree with something..it means i have to figure it out and understand it...then the next step is choosing to follow that oral law or the fence that is built around the written law.
Okay, at least the first step go and keep Shabbat - its Diorita- not Rabbinic.
there you go again with Shabbat...Listen, i think about it every Saturday...the first thing i start with is a mind at ease...most of the time, I don't leave my apartment the full day..eventhough i will do what I do at home... I'm not trying to get approval from anyone, but to be strictly shomer shabbat is not somethign i want to do right now.
I forgot, but you live in Roslyn or Great neck right? (not far from Queens?)
in NYC.
Here's the thing, Tzvi...i had thought about becoming much more observant at one point in my life. maybe even to a closer degree to the way yo uare..but my family isn't as observant and this would mean distancing myself from them. Should this take precendence over my family? I have seen some people go ahead and become much more religious on their own and i have seen the pain the parents felt when they kind of realized they might have lost their child to an ideology..nevertheless a good and righteous one. I'm sorry to say, but my life with my family as less observant, but still very righteous takes precendence and is much more important to me than being shomer shabbat by the letter of the law literally. I do believe there will be a point where me, my siblings, and my parents will very gradually become more and more observant and Gd willing, my wife and kids whenever Gd wishes to give me either of them. For me to suddenly become shomer shabbat and shomer kashrut or just relaly relaly super observant like you is impractical.
the reason why i stick around here on this forum and believe in JTF and Chaim is that Chaim, himself, even said that he won't necessarily rush the secular Israelis into super religious people if and when he or someone like him took power..but that it woudl become a gradual thing..through education, through positive reinforcement...and as long as he keeps his word to not hurry these things, I know that i can jump on that boat too.
So just understand, first and foremost is my family. They are righteous people who love Gd, who love Israel, who love life, who love Judaism and Torah, who love fellow Jews, who are kind tzadik people, even though not quite ready to be Orthodox. They, as myself, have chosen to have a balance with religion and secularism. I knwo this doesn't agree with the majority on this forum, but I have decided for myself, for now, especially after my recent visit to Israel, that this is the way I'm going to have to do it. I respect anything and everything every Rabbi had to say and write about a halakha and mitzva and all the power to anyone who goes all the way to be scrupulous about these things. I am more than willing to learn about it, but to practice certain things, just not for me right now.
I can write a lot about this and maybe I will come back and add more.
The first thing is that my family is also not religious and I wasn't allways religious myself.
Even though my family isnt religious, to tell you the truth im much closer to my parents then from many of the people I know who either the whole family is secular or religious in many cases. Most of the secular do drugs and barly speak to their parents.
I do respect my parents and do talk, also I try to get them to keep mitzvot and say brahot, but it all comes down to the individual to decide. I do respect my parents (I try my best) but I also tell them the truth when it applies to them even though they might not like it. For example when talking about kids, etc. I straight out told my dad that I wont let him be the Sandak of my kid, becuase he is Mihalel Shabbat and I dont want my future kid to get the influnces from that.
"but still very righteous takes precendence and is much more important to me than being shomer shabbat by the letter of the law literally."
One cant be called rightious and be Mihalel Shabbat. And you dont deserve execution by stoning by not being a nice person, but you do when you break Shabbat. Even though its obviously important to keep all the mitzvot and to respect and honor others, that still doesnt excuse one from keeping such an important Mitzvah of Shabbat.
You want your family to gradually keep mitzvot then you should start and be the example. Belive me even if they scream at you and call you crazy, after some time it will stop (they will accept you), and then even slowly (or G-d willing if your lucky and they really learn) quickly follow you.
First of all you have to also love yourself (your true self- your soul). If your family and many others around you (unfortunatly) are doing suicide every Shabbat, then why cant you at least save yourself?
Another point. You never know when you will die. Someone who breaks Shabbat G-d promises to cut them out of the nation of Israel (maybe except the Tinok Shinishba(however you say it) )- but you know the consequences.
+ if you love your parents then you should work on correcting yourself and being rightious (in G-ds "eyes" not your limite dunderstanding, becuase the Ben Ish Chai brings down that children can atone for their parents and elevate their souls after they pass away (threw Kaddish and doing Mitzvot).
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