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Abben:
when I was younger I wanted to be the sole bread winner and have a house wife. But there is no problems with a working wife I am not married yet, but my girlfriend works no problems.

momofsixbabes:
I can't see how a wife can be relaxed and happy if she must maintain a home, manage a household, and bring home the bacon? I have worked all my life since twelve years old (blueberry picking to teaching in the schools). I have a lot of years of experience in this area. I also have many working aquaintances/moms. They all seem aggitated and disrespectful to their husbands, and impatient with the children. Their children also tend to be wild and disrespectful. I know the truth hurts, but I see the opposite with those women who stay at home. I am sure there could be rare exceptions, but I haven't seen them. It can be very scary for a woman to depend on her husband as the bread winner, very vulnerable. However, most women refer, in jest, that there husband are another child to care for. That sounds so disrespectful to me, with such an edge of bitterness. Yet, every working woman I have met says this in front of her husband to other people. I would rather learn to live with less and have the time to meet my husband with love and joy at the door than be overloaded with an irritated and bad demeanor because I was overworked and exhausted.

nessuno:

--- Quote from: momofsixbabes on November 28, 2008, 02:41:49 PM ---I can't see how a wife can be relaxed and happy if she must maintain a home, manage a household, and bring home the bacon? I have worked all my life since twelve years old (blueberry picking to teaching in the schools). I have a lot of years of experience in this area. I also have many working aquaintances/moms. They all seem aggitated and disrespectful to their husbands, and impatient with the children. Their children also tend to be wild and disrespectful. I know the truth hurts, but I see the opposite with those women who stay at home. I am sure there could be rare exceptions, but I haven't seen them. It can be very scary for a woman to depend on her husband as the bread winner, very vulnerable. However, most women refer, in jest, that there husband are another child to care for. That sounds so disrespectful to me, with such an edge of bitterness. Yet, every working woman I have met says this in front of her husband to other people. I would rather learn to live with less and have the time to meet my husband with love and joy at the door than be overloaded with an irritated and bad demeanor because I was overworked and exhausted.

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As a working Mother...I take some offense.  While I would prefer not to work outside of the home, I do need health benefits and an income.
I'm not agitated or disrespectful to anyone.
My child is not wild and disrespectful.

I see that you may be a working Mom - on rereading your post.  So I'll change mine. 
For people who can live on less...they should be grateful.

Where I live, the cost of living is so high, most Mom's have to work.  We don't have a whole town of wild and disrespectful children.  The problems in our society don't all lie at the feet of working Mothers.

nessuno:
That sounds like a rough neighborhood.

I think what's missing is morality.

I can still teach my child to be a good and moral person...even though I work.

In fact,  I think I am a very good role model for my child.  I raise her with love and caring.  I'm part of a 'helping' profession (which I hope she admires me for).  I am helping my parents as they age.  Nothing wrong with my child seeing a woman be both strong and compassionate...especially since she is a girl.
 
Oh - and I don't think I'm unusual.  I think many women are trying to do the same thing...live a moral life despite the pressures placed on us.

cjd:
It sounds like you are very fortunate to be able to stay at home and manage the upbringing of your children so well. It also sounds like the circles you associate with more or less are church going folks of the same mind. If only everywhere in the world was still like this things would be simple. Today the world is a hostile place and while its good to teach you children to love G-d and have good manners they also need to know how to deal with the real world that exists outside of private or home school situations. Once children raised like that have to leave the sheltered environment they are often at a loss to deal with a world that is very hostile. I have no horse in this show but from what I see even if parents work they still can get good results if they spend time talking to their kids and trying to teach them the difference between right and wrong. Kids today need exposure to what they will be dealing with. I don't agree on the timing  and the levels that some school system force questionable  subjects down kids throats but at some point kids should know whats shaking out there. Tossing kids out into the world after 15 or so years of a sheltered upbringing can have disastrous results. Unless people plan to stay in their protected circle's forever I don't really see it working out any better in the long run.

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