It might be easy for some of you to judge this mother, but I don't think you should. She just went through terrible pain with a traumatic birth with no painkillers, and probably had her hormones going through the roof in all different directions. We also don't know what the baby looked like. If it was miscarried it may not have looked like a normal baby, depending on how developed it was, or whether it had any birth defects. This could have also have added to the shock of the situation. Add to that, the fact of the emotional trauma of having a miscarriage and not a live baby.
When she called the hospital for advice she didn't have the energy to do anything except what they said. As she said, her head was messed up right then and she was counting on them to give her good advice. If she had been in a better state of mind at the time, she would have realized how ridiculous it is, or at least questioned it, but she wasn't in the position to do that right then. She didn't have it in her to push back, she was worn out, physically and emotionally.
We should however, judge this so-called nurse. The mother could have died from infection or blood loss. I think that the nurse needs to be criminally charged.