According to our Holy Torah it is an abomination for a man to sleep with another man. It is not 'OK' if it is done in private, it is just that we are not forced to punish them for their obvious rejection of the word of the G-d of Israel, the Master of the Universe. If we are to believe our Torah, we must know that we will not win the war if we accept this abomination.
If people can be openly gay in the military it will lead to disaster for America. I also think this may be the reason that the IDF is no longer the great fighting force it was in years past. What happened to the Israel Defense Force which defeated many arab armys in 6 days? Lebanon was a disaster, and the last gaza operation was a complete failure. For every action, there is an opposite action, which is Hashem telling us that we have strayed very far from the goal he has for humanity.
I just don't understand the desire to flaunt your sexuality. It flies in the face of humility, modesty, and self-respect. I know gays, heck I live in San Francisco, and I know that there is something wrong with them. I read recently that there are many gays who 'believe in g-d'... What they believe in is a gay jesus, who fits their fantasies.
I have been one who does not advocate being mean or disrespectful of gays. I think that they should get help, try to understand what it is which makes them attracted to their own sex. I think that there are deep rooted issues which could be causing this behavior. But even if I don't oppress the gay, I do everything I can to prevent them from desecrating marriage, and from 'spreading the gay word' in the military.
Apparently this generation has missed the point and have become permissive... Yeah, "I know I nice gay guy and he even gives charity..." I know them too... But that does not make that lifestyle permissible.