You either are sexy or you are not. Acting is going against your own nature.
What I meant is there is no overexerted need to conquer a woman, so there is no need to overemphasize being sexy.
A moral life will exclude becoming a slob and will make you 'sexy', without acting sexy.
Acting sexy will only derive attention from what is necessary to be done.
In a healthy marriage, both are 'effortlessly sexy', which is the only healthy way.