There's a difference.
If you're being generous to someone then that's helping someone who is truly in need out of kindness. I donate to food banks sometimes (even though I suspect a lot of that actually goes to illegal aliens, I know there are a lot of genuinely poor people including some blacks, American Hispanics, whites, and others who actually need help. I've helped friends in financial dire straits before when they couldn't pay for basic needs.
Being a bleeding heart can involve thinking you're being generous but you are really just getting played. Like seeing a bum and assuming they're a poor, disadvantaged, victim of racism and/or society's ill treatment who truly needs your help when in reality they may make more per hour begging (tax free too) than a lot of people make at part time jobs, and who are possibly also getting some kind of government benefits and/or gaining money through illegal activities to supplement their income.
Another example of being a bleeding heart is donating money to say, Haiti. Yes what happened there is horrible, but you know that Haiti is always horrible, and basically all the money that went there ended up getting wasted because those people's standards of life really aren't any better than they were and never will be. It's a waste, like trying to bring "democracy" to Muslims. It's just not going to work.
There's a difference.
If you're being generous to someone then that's helping someone who is truly in need out of kindness. I donate to food banks sometimes (even though I suspect a lot of that actually goes to illegal aliens, I know there are a lot of genuinely poor people including some blacks, American Hispanics, whites, and others who actually need help. I've helped friends in financial dire straits before when they couldn't pay for basic needs.
Being a bleeding heart can involve thinking you're being generous but you are really just getting played. Like seeing a bum and assuming they're a poor, disadvantaged, victim of racism and/or society's ill treatment who truly needs your help when in reality they may make more per hour begging (tax free too) than a lot of people make at part time jobs, and who are possibly also getting some kind of government benefits and/or gaining money through illegal activities to supplement their income.
Another example of being a bleeding heart is donating money to say, Haiti. Yes what happened there is horrible, but you know that Haiti is always horrible, and basically all the money that went there ended up getting wasted because those people's standards of life really aren't any better than they were and never will be. It's a waste, like trying to bring "democracy" to Muslims. It's just not going to work.
Its a concept I've been developping myself, and I wanted to hear what you could say, but I have plenty of examples. You can't be "morally against charity" and I don't think that the crack-heads are feeding on good-will. Its wrapped up with this tolerance facade somehow; you don't give money because (regardless of what you think you want) you expect them to do any better, yet you are disdainful of others, because if only they had given too, you believe, it would have made the diffrence, no matter how many people gave or how much was given. Parents proudly let their kids give change to bums, to purportedly teach them to be good, yet they simulatenously teach them waste, acceptace of bums, and encouragement of their lifestyle (in cases where they have them give to the same one regularly). They wouldn't dare teach them to associate with someone like like, by doing something like taking them out for a coffee and proposing a temporary work and lodging program, but they are more then happy to teach them to tolerate them in their environment, and to ultimately reward them, though the world would be far better served if that were given to poor college students.
The homeless make you feel guilt with their eyes or signs or anything for giving nothing, and give nothing if you do give, like this was excpeted, and that this is just a regular part of life that should go on forever. If you do not service the unservicing, you feel guilty, ashemed, cheap, or are worried others will think you are broke or heartless, but if you do give, all you have for congratulations is the pride you feed yourself with, and become an emotional beggar, looking around for others to recognize your greatness.
I'm tugging strands at this giant knot in my head, and I really need the explanation; what is the fundamental difference between giving money say to a kibbutz or a dead-friends wife, and to the begging stranger, or 6% of donation (!) given Moron Temple chairty fund? You know there is one, I think there's a line in this between morality and immorality.