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Is it a good idea to have sex ed?
Dr. Dan:
--- Quote from: Zvulun ben Moshe on January 24, 2008, 10:26:49 PM ---Try getting married, Doc...
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working on it....
Just Erica:
I think it's a great idea for prospective brides and grooms to be taken to the side to attend pre-marriage seminars, and even "How To Talk About Sex with Your Spouse" classes. I think it could only help the marriage stay the course.
Just Erica:
--- Quote from: newman on January 21, 2008, 06:59:04 AM ---It occurs to me that since sex education in schools was introduced we have more bastard babies, rape and abortion than we had when people were (supposedly) ignorant of it.
Why not 'Social Responsibility' classes that teach black hos in the inner cities not to scatter bastard babies all over the ghetto?
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The purpose of teaching sex ed in schools Newman, is to teach kids that if they're going to do it, they should practice it safely and not put their lives in danger. *Safely meaning abstainence or condom use*. I think that if I hadn't learned about sex at an early age, I would have been a teen mom. Luckily that sex ed class I took in elementary school came along. It put the fear of God in me.
Just Erica:
--- Quote from: Kiwi on January 03, 2008, 12:47:38 AM ---
--- Quote from: MassuhDGoodName on January 02, 2008, 11:56:47 PM ---skippy: "...tenth year pfft wished that you married the TV in some cases..."
Skippy,
I have this theory that the happiest marriages would be those in which the husband and wife occupy separate bedrooms, and not be around each other constantly.
It seems to me that some of the happiest housewives I have known were those whose husbands were always away from home on business trips.
In your opinion, do you think this kind of arrangement might help keep the fires of passion burning and prevent marital "burnout"?
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Oh yes, some of my happest moments was when I was deployed or my husband was. Thats how we lasted 10 years.
Marriage, now the younger you are the more naive and tolerant of your partner. And sex if high on the agenda.
Age plays a very important role in relationships.
When you are older you see things very different.
Sharing the bed. Yes its nice the comfort and closeness that it provides, but what about the breathing in ones face or *shudder* breathing down your neck. Cute for a while then ...........no.
Or its a heat wave and you are sweating melting into a pile of whatever and you have another heated body sweating all over you too. Sexy I think not.
Or when Its womens time, you don't want to be near people, you are unclean, not a time for closeness.
Or work shift you don't want to be in a room with people you need rest and quiet.
Or if you have a cold or they have, dribbling coughing, snorting over you, yes very romantic NOT!
Or what about the farting, stretching and snoring, being a blanket hog, coming over yourside of the bed.
Personal space!!!!!
Foreign concept to some people.
Separate beds yes at times or big huge king size bed.
Not being connected to each others hip 24 hours a day is a good thing.
Theres a saying "how can I miss you if you don't go away".
Time apart does allow a more passionate reunion, but not to long of a break tho.
Business is fine, but they go on trips just to get away, not fine.
To be away from your spouse you need complete trust, and couples that can't ever do this I wonder why? maybe no trust is there. ;)
When you are an adult you don't require 24 hour attention.
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Kiwi isn't here anymore but I wanted to respond to this. I got married at 20 years old (my husband was 21). He was the first man I'd ever lived with so imagine how scared I was that I would muck everything up within the first 5 minutes of our marital relationship. lol When it came to the sleeping arrangements, I was aware that in a monogomous relationship (in some households) the man and wife slept in the same bed. At first I wasn't comfortable because I'd slept by myself for years...but as time went on (about 2 weeks) I learned to love it. I don't like NOT sleeping next to him and even when he's away, I sleep on my side of the bed because it's comforting for me to feel that he's next to me in spirit.
Now, I also had grandparents who slept in separate bedrooms for 30 years of their marriage, until my grandfather died. They had separate tv's, separate bedtime rituals, separate comfort zones, separate conversations (they rarely spoke to each other), and even separate dogs. I never questioned the way they spent time with each other (or not)...it wasn't my business. But I knew that I didn't want to grow separately from my husband in EVERY aspect. I like being around him, feeling him next to me, feeling him breathe...and when he snores, I just nudge him and he turns over to sleep more soundly.
What I'm trying to say is that being next to your spouse isn't a bad thing...but I also know that not all couples run their relationships the same way. I'll miss the heck out of him once he deploys for 7-9 months; I'll inject that "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" quote right there...until he comes home. :)
Just Erica:
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on January 21, 2008, 12:20:21 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 21, 2008, 08:53:04 AM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on January 21, 2008, 07:36:49 AM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 21, 2008, 06:59:04 AM ---It occurs to me that since sex education in schools was introduced we have more bastard babies, rape and abortion than we had when people were (supposedly) ignorant of it.
Why not 'Social Responsibility' classes that teach black hos in the inner cities not to scatter bastard babies all over the ghetto?
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Not necessarily true.
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Are you kidding?
Wanna compare statistics from 1957 to 2007?
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Your claim that it is this way is because of sex education class...
My claim that it isn't necessarily because of sex education class...there is something else in the air that might have also caused a lot of teenage pregnancies. I prefer to blame it on the moral decay and inability to use morality properly by our government and Hollywood's glorification of things like children out of wetlock.
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I agree with you, Dr. Dan. I think some people get "Sex Education" mixed up with "How to Have Sex" education. This attitude is precisely the reason why so many parents refuse to talk to their children about sex; they're too afraid that the info they give would be like reading a "How To" manual. I've actually seen a lot of children grow up where whenever the word sex was said in the household, they would be beaten to a pulp because "sex" is supposed to be a bad word.
What creates young teen moms (black, white, yellow, pink or green) is the lack of information about safe sex, or abstainence.
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