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Pre-Marital sex. What is your take??
Dr. Dan:
--- Quote from: JTFFan on June 15, 2008, 04:43:29 AM ---I think sex should be between in a man and a woman, love and a marriage. If the bride happens not to be a virgin, then she must repent and always love you, if not and if she cheats on you, then she never truly loved you in the first place.
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that woudl be true with a virgin as well who were to do the same thing...
Tzvi Ben Roshel1:
Dont worry Yakov the way you think is the right way O0 Kol Hakavod, never settle for less then what is truly right to do. "narrowing your chances" etc. is not true at all, G-d will find you your Zivug, hopefully your Zivug gilgul as they say, and bless you with a good marriage. Anyway also dont get the picture that only the most religiouss of girls are virgins, and the rest all sleep around. Also many Baal Tishuva girls, have also been clean completly, because it is not only a religious thing. Their are many girls available, and you should obviously look in the right places- like through a Shadhan or a Rav who can find you someone rightious and on your level (obviously not clubs, bars and the other filthy places people go to, and then wonder if their are any virgins left- obviously not where they are searching).
About marriage- the truth is that people should marry young, and G-d willing when my kids grow up, I will have them married at around 18.
Scriabin:
Yawn.
Tzvi Ben Roshel1:
--- Quote from: Scriabin on June 15, 2008, 04:51:48 PM ---Yawn.
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;D , if you dont like it change the channel.
Tzvi Ben Roshel1:
I never go to club, bars, and silly places like that. I don't even like those places and they just play loud trash music there.
Are Frumster and Orthodate good places to meet a woman? If I get a job in The Summer, I will money to spend so I will be able to afford to be a paid member there. I was only a paid member on Frumster once but the only girl that answered me didn't want to wait until I was done college and I still had a long way to go then. Now I will graduated in December and the only thing standing in the way is having enough money to get married but I will able to work full time since I'll be out of college.
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I know that, I also dont go, but I wouldn't say that if their was no Torah law agains't it that I wouldn't. I went a few times when I was verry young, and to tell you the truth at first I liked it, because I was the shiite because I knew how to dance and stuff. Also I loved the music (trance, club music) and was into that. It wasn't even to pick up a girl, but it was just the atmosphere- the music and friends that attracted me, as well as others. Then I just stopped going after talking to a Rabbi, and seeing the shiite that was going on their, where before I would go if a friend invited for their birthday, I just then said naa sorry its not the place for me.
I do not know about Frumster and the other site, but I guess trying wont hurt. I personaly would not and will not go on them, because the girls on their are probably not for me (Im guessing they are mostly Askenazi) but if you see one that you like why not? Also if I were you I would definitly get myself realy trying by now, because you already need to be married, and you shouldn't wait to first completly finish college to then start dating and then find your match and then finaly get married at like 40 (G-d forbid). Go fishing now, and see what you will catch, also pray to Hashe-m and dont settle below your reasonable standards (dont make society think you are not "normal" or better yett doing the right thing in wanting simple things like a girl who respects her body, respecting G-d's laws of not having xxx before marriage, and respecting her future husband.) All the luck to you, may Hashe-m send you your Zivuk Gilgul and may she be a modest, rightious lady who keeps the laws properly.
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