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Why is it forbidden to marry a jewish girl?
Kahane-Was-Right BT:
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--- Quote from: Americanhero on February 26, 2009, 11:32:05 AM ---According to the Torah, Jews should not intermarry because their children will turn to other religions. "You shall not intermarry with them: do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons. For you will turn your children away from Me to worship other gods..." (Deuteronomy 7:1-3).
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I think one can practice his religion even though he is married to a gentile if the gentile is tolerant and the kids of a jewish mother are jews anyway according to hallacha no matter whats the fathers religion.
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According to halacha, it is forbidden to intermarry.
Furthermore, your example doesn't make any sense. You are talking about a guy practicing HIS religion, but to practice his religion would mean to marry a Jew, firstly, and also you are talking about the kids being Jewish if he marries a Jewish woman, but weren't you trying to say that the guy married a gentile woman? That would mean the kids are not Jewish.
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I made a mistake. I tried to say that if a jewish woman marries a gentile guy, the kids are jewish.
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The problem is, they are probably not raised Jewish, with a Jewish environment, education, focus on Torah and mitzvoth etc. This is also a problem if one marries a secular Jew. And a child is supposed to have an influence from his mother and his father. It's a partnership.
The goal is not to 'be a Jew' in a secular sense, as if that in itself is somehow an end, or superior to being born anything else, the goal is to live as a Jew according to halacha. Having a gentile parent who is not focused on infusing the values of Judaism into the child, is obviously counterproductive. But the real reason not to intermarry is that it is forbidden by halacha. If you're asking why the halacha forbids it, I think we can arrive at many simple rational answers to support the halacha similar to what I've stated above.
Rubystars:
--- Quote from: Inquiring Mind on February 27, 2009, 02:45:07 AM ---
--- Quote from: Rubystars on February 27, 2009, 12:31:04 AM ---I don't think people with different religions should marry each other anyway but the fact that G-d specifically said no in this case just makes it all that more important to follow.
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why do you think people of different religions shouldnt marry eatch other?
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I think people who marry should be of similar background and identity so that children know their background and identity as part of a nation and religion.
I think that only people of the same race should marry one another (Jews are an exception, because regardless of their race they are part of the same "nation").
I also believe that people even of the same race should not marry unless they have the same religion because that means they will share similar values and beliefs and they can work together with their children to teach them morals.
I knew a girl named Serena who was a pretty strong Christian. She got involved with a "shaman" and I told her that it was wrong and against the Christian faith to marry someone of a different religion. She said that she'd remain true to her faith and that she thought it was ok. She used to be pro-life and very conservative. The last time I talked to her, her Christian faith had really deteriorated and she was leaning more toward her husband's ideas and lost her conservative outlook.
Shlomo:
--- Quote from: Inquiring Mind on February 27, 2009, 05:23:21 AM ---I made a mistake. I tried to say that if a jewish woman marries a gentile guy, the kids are jewish.
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Don't even the Christians believe that people should not marry if they are not equally yoked? Do you not believe your own religion?
There's a good reason for two people of very different belief systems to marry (even though Western culture is obsessed with the idea of a forbidden relationship with all odds against it which is why they are on very top of the divorce statistics).
If two people marry but do not have a common life goal, then the marriage will most likely fail (or worse, the two people will be miserable). Regardless of romantic fantasies, the initial feelings that one has with the opposite sex do not last and something with subsistence must take its place for real love (not lust) and respect to grow and for the two to have self esteem and pride that they accomplished something important together.
Furthermore, how would someone raise their children? G-d forbid that the Jewish people lose their identity and their Torah.
Inquiring Mind:
--- Quote from: Shlomo on February 27, 2009, 10:56:36 AM ---
--- Quote from: Inquiring Mind on February 27, 2009, 05:23:21 AM ---I made a mistake. I tried to say that if a jewish woman marries a gentile guy, the kids are jewish.
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Don't even the Christians believe that people should not marry if they are not equally yoked? Do you not believe your own religion?
There's a good reason for two people of very different belief systems to marry (even though Western culture is obsessed with the idea of a forbidden relationship with all odds against it which is why they are on very top of the divorce statistics).
If two people marry but do not have a common life goal, then the marriage will most likely fail (or worse, the two people will be miserable). Regardless of romantic fantasies, the initial feelings that one has with the opposite sex do not last and something with subsistence must take its place for real love (not lust) and respect to grow and for the two to have self esteem and pride that they accomplished something important together.
Furthermore, how would someone raise their children? G-d forbid that the Jewish people lose their identity and their Torah.
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what means "equally yoked"? there are many christians who marry other religions, my uncle was orthodox and he married a catholic hungarian woman
Shlomo:
--- Quote from: Inquiring Mind on February 27, 2009, 11:00:18 AM ---what means "equally yoked"? there are many christians who marry other religions, my uncle was orthodox and he married a catholic hungarian woman
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It means they have the same basic belief system. Both your uncle and his wife were Christians.
When G-d tells the Jewish people to marry only Jewish people, this should be enough. I was kind enough to give just a tiny bit of further explanation that doesn't even begin to scratch the surface or talk about souls, keeping a kosher home, or our duty and mission in this life.
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