Who is talking about how we view black people? This thread is solely about abortion. Why have you put race into the mix?
I am surprised that you did not know that hormonal contraception is among the least reliable contraception out there. The Pill has a 97% success rate when it is used perfectly... since the Patch uses the same hormonal poisons, it's rate is similar. If this was such a huge issue for your health, you or your husband should have looked into a sterilization long, long ago.
Actually Chaimfan, this is your quote in the beginning of the thread...
***Sidenote: Blacks are 13% of the U.S. population but constitute 37% of abortions***
I've tried all kinds of birth control. I had my first child at 21, my second at 23. We, my husband and I were too young to be sterilized at that time... After my second child I was on Depo Provera which took me from 135lbs to 175lbs in 4 months and caused a heck of a lot of other physical problems I wont' mention here. After that, we used condoms solely until I found out about the Patch. We used it alone for 4 years with no problems. 7 years later, when we were ready to have another baby, I got off of the Patch and we concieved my third child. After she was born, I started the Patch again... she was 1 when we concieved again (while I was wearing the Patch). I was told after my third daughter was born that we shouldn't try to conceive again because the pre e came back when I was pregnant with her. I didn't expect the one B.C. method that worked for me before to fail on us years later.
Needless to say that now, my husband is looking into getting a vas. I can't have a tubal ligation because I've already had two emergency c sections AND an abortion. Its too much for my body to take.
So Chaim fan this has less to do with what we "SHOULD HAVE" done and more to do with "WHAT WE WILL DO NOW."