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Ask JTF for Sunday November 29, 2009
christians4jews:
hey Chaim like you my weakeness is girls. So unfortunately this week is a long winded agony aunt type question.
i had an office relationship with this girl i reall really liked. We really did get on very well for a year, but had to go sep[erate ways due to work/university circumstances. We had a stupid arguement over not being able to meet at a work conference. I said some nasty things to her via text which i regret . Plus the reason i was nasty to her was really a smoke screen for me blowing the chance to see her at the conference.
Anyway the next day i apologised via text and admitted that i was in the wrong, wished her well in the future in the aknowledgement that i had messed up and she would quite rightly never want anything to do with me again. We now live in different parts of the country. I vowed to never text her again even though i still have feeling for her. But she still texts me, and occasionally rings me. But whenever she visits my department she wouldnt even look in my direction, barely even aknowledge me. Say "hi" very quickly then turn away, not wanting to engage in conversation. then leaving, sending a text "sorry i couldnt properly meet you today, i wish i could etc etc", when she blatantly had a chance to talk to me.
But then still be interested in what im doing via text, asking what im up to, and even occasionally ringing me. I saw her this year at the conference, again she was texting me, making sure i was going to the event etc. But when she came up to me she again wouldnt give me eye contact and seemed very defensive and would quickly run away. It was only until she has some alcohol in her to pluck up the courage to speak to me. She was then really nice, and we went back to the good old times where we use to have a connection, and a really good joke. Plus even came up to me and danced with me at the conference party.
So my question is chaim, why is she still contacting me, showin interest in me, and still occasionally ringing me, yet when we meet face to face shes still seems to have this fear with engaging with me and even looking me in the eye.Now i have got over her, even though i still have feelings for her. Plus im just about to get in a relationship with another girl, who seems nice. But it hurts me when someone i kinda blew my chance with over a stupid imature arguement, still wants to know what im up to, but when face to face seems very scared to talk to me, apart from when she intoxicated with alcohol. I never contact her, shes always finding out what im doing.plus is shes currently in a relationship as well.What does it all mean???
Again apologies for the long question.
Daniel:
A couple of weeks ago, my father was telling me about one of his co-workers who is a devout Muslim who stated, in reference to the Fort Hood Massacre, that he doesn't understand how anyone could kill in the name of religion. So what do you think the deal is with my father's co-worker? Does he not understand his own religion as well as you do? Or is he just engaging in taqiyah?
Trace:
Shalom Chaim,
I just read an essay by Tom Wolfe, from way back in the 1970s, about a party which was thrown for the Black Panthers by Leonard Bernstein and a host of fellow rich Jews in New York. They had these black savages come to their multi-million dollar penthouse and party with them, and during the party they solicited donations from the other guests for the Panthers which ultimately equaled thousands and thousands of dollars. Can you imagine such insanity? Why did all these Jews rally behind viciously anti-Semitic black groups? Were they stupidly trying to recruit the blacks to be the militant wing of the Jewish intellectual left, seeing the white Gentile establishment as being ultimately more hostile? How can a group which is so ingenious in so many ways be so unbelievably STUPID when it comes to their own survival? Is there anyone on earth who is so obsessed with feeding the mouth that bites them?
Maccabi:
would you want a free chaim ben pesach protest in Jerusalem?
maybe it could be across the street from where the women in black protest on friday.
that way they might have a harder time breaking it up because the double standard would be
obvious if they shut one down but not the other.
Abben:
Hello Chaim do you think obama could ever be impeached? Or do you think his news media will save him? Thanks and GD bless
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