I'm divorced and didn't do very well the first time around looking for the traits that would make a good husband but maybe next time.
This time around I am looking for someone likeminded politically. That is probably my biggest thing. If you are a liberal then that really tells me something about your morals and value system.
Someone who wants lots of children. I have 2 wonderful munchkins from my first marriage but would love many more- as many as finances will possibly allow.
About the gym deal- I just don't think it's that important. Sure, they have to be reasonable attractive. I don't want to turn over in the morning and stare at someone who is ugly to me but a 6 pack sure isn't a requirement either.
Someone with a decent job and decent work ethic although preferably not a workaholic just because that doesn't mesh well with family life.
I'm rather old fashioned and traditional in basically every way so that's important to me to find someone who is as well.
That's all I can think of. Haven't found him yet I don't think.