wrestling is only gay if you aren't secure about your masculinity.
I wouldn't say that wrestling is gay.
But a situation such as in jiu jitsu, of having a man's bare leg wrapped around your neck. I wouldn't say that's gay either 'cos it is a choke hold and is meant for that. But it could be an uncomfortable - regardless of whether you are secure or not.
In chats with people, I have heard stories of how somebody is sitting down somewhere, and the guy next to him puts his hand on his leg, and doesn't remove it. It happened to me once, a feeling that is the opposite of attraction occurs, one gets -very- angry. In my case, we had chairs with wheels so I rolled my chair back.. In analysis of the situation with an indian I knew(don't know how reliable), he said it's the custom to behave like that in south india where he was from, men like to touch each other.
And some girls do have hairy legs, hairier than some guys. Not much of an attractive appeal to them, one would have to think about a different area. If you sampled lots of girls and men in such holds, and you got attracted to all the girls' legs, I really don't know if the radar might give some false positives for men - what if one or two men have legs like a girl? I think what most likely would happen, is as a defence mechanism, you'd be attracted to -none- of them, and that's not so good either, you see your wife's legs and it does nothing. Having never done jiu jitsu, I haven't faced that problem. But I have seen men and women doing jiu jitsu, and the man is very desensitized to the woman(as he would be to a man, he doesn't feel repulsion, just, nothing).
I did once hear that nudists often become impotent, simply from being desensitised to the sexual perspective of the body.
It's healthy to be repulsed by the feel of a man's leg, and attracted by the feel of a woman's leg.
One might be unfortunate enough to experience the former if driving a small car and the guy in the seat next to you is wearing shorts. "MOVE YOUR LEG" , I shouted, as my driving got more and more angry and erratic as I accelerated to the max for that gear, avoiding changing gear!!!!