Of Gender-Neutral Bathrooms and Homosexual Dads

gay_schoolsThe big news out of San Francisco last week was that it would register another first: a city elementary school is going to switch to all “gender-neutral” bathrooms.  The idea is, as the Daily Mail put it, to “accommodate young students who don’t fit into gender norms.”  Of course, this apparently means that normal students who might like those supposedly antiquated single-sex bathrooms can just go to Hell (I mean, the Hell that isn’t San Francisco).

The scene of this enlightened step into the brave new world is Miraloma Elementary.  Now, you might think a San Fran school would have a couple of hundred sexually confused kids, but actually, the change is in deference to six to eight children (and to liberal dementia) who “range from tomboys to transgender,” reports SFGate.com.  Hey, don’t you know?  The whims of the few outweigh the good of the many.

But what really caught my attention was this passage from the Mail:

‘I think most people don’t think about how difficult it can be, going to the bathroom for someone like my son,’ said a woman named Jae, who refused to give her last name to protect her son.

Her son, a first-grader, is a boy who identifies as a boy but prefers to dress and style his hair like a girl.

‘He was just struggling with it quietly,’ the mom added. ‘[Now] he can just use the restroom without thinking about it.’

Ari Braverman, 6, says he too is happy about the bathroom change since he likes to dress like a girl and doesn’t discriminate between boys’ and girls’ toys.

‘I think it’s nice because then people don’t have to be separated just to go into bathrooms,’ Ari said. ‘It’s just easier to go to the bathroom if there’s just a bathroom.’

Ari’s dad, Gedalia Braverman, agreed, saying, ‘As parents, you eventually realize it’s not your job to change your child’s personality. It’s not my job to identify and pigeonhole my children’s genders, and certainly it’s not the school’s.’

There’s a lot here to take issue with.  For instance, one could also imagine the following: “Ari Braverman, 6, says he too is happy about ice cream for dinner since he likes ice cream and doesn’t care for meat and vegetables.”  Then there’s “Ari Braverman, 6, says he too is happy about replacing math with video-game time since he likes video games and doesn’t discriminate between education and fooling around.”  What a six-year-old thinks about social norms is taken seriously only by someone (such as, let’s say, Jimmy Carter) who would cite in a debate his little daughter’s views on nuclear weapons policy, or a president who’d say his flip-flop on marriage was influenced by his kids.  (Of course, Barack Obama was for faux marriage in 1996, so it’s more likely that dad influenced Sasha and Malia.)

gay_braBut what I found odd – as someone who’d entertain Neanderthal notions such as single-sex bathrooms – was this: a mother named “Jae,” a father named “Gedalia.”  Really?  Somehow I get the feeling their kids didn’t exactly get a normal start to life.

Now, since “Jae” was rather secretive, finding information on her would be difficult.  But it didn’t take much sleuthing to learn that Gedalia Braverman, although this isn’t mentioned by the Mail, is actually a single homosexual father.  And read the following, from a blog that describes “Gedalia’s Journey”:

His twins were born thanks to the modern technology of assisted reproduction, and with the help of his friends.

In last June’s newsletter for Pacific Fertility Center, the clinic that helped Braverman become a parent, he describes the story of his journey.

“They say it takes a village to raise a child. In my case it took a village to create a child. Thanks to a loving gestational surrogate, and longtime friends as both egg and sperm donors, my dream of parenting has come true,” he writes.

Question: does it take a village idiot to raise a really mixed up child?

Of course, I’m sure Ari’s Little Journey is just an anomaly.  We know that homosexuals aren’t any more likely to raise homosexual or maladjusted children than are average parents.  We know this because the left has told us so, again and again, citing “studies” all the way through.  And it’s bigotry to think otherwise (or even to think. Emote now, will ya?).

Except for one thing.  We also know that little children model the behavior of those around them; they could not do otherwise.  While Braverman says it isn’t his “job” to change his child’s “personality” or pigeonhole his “gender,” the reality is that he’s shaping his children’s personalities whether he realizes it or not.  You influence your child by what you choose to be (which determines the example you set), by what you say, how you act, and by what you don’t say.  In fact, “values are caught more than they’re taught”; it’s what’s assumed that is learned best.

Moreover, this Rousseau-esque notion of just letting your child be what he is “naturally” is pure and utter nonsense.  Naturally, a baby is a barbarian, illiterate, bereft of morals and manners, and quite likely a sociopath.  Just as children have to be taught math or biology, they have to taught (trained in, actually) morals and civility.  That’s how they become civil-ized.

This gets at the contradiction inherent in the “I’m not going to put my child in a gender straitjacket” fad.  (Note: “gender” once only referred to words, and it shouldn’t be used with people.)  Why stop at “gender”?  Psychobabblers diagnose “gender dysphoria,” the sense that you’re stuck in the body of the wrong sex.  But there’s also “species dysphoria,” the sense that you’re stuck in the body of the wrong species.  As to this, a young Texas woman going by the name “Wolfie Blackheart” insisted in 2010 that she was a canine.

So why suppress your child’s “true personality” by putting him in a species straitjacket?  Yet we do.  We teach children language, manners, our human society’s norms (mostly), how to use human-birthed technology, and a whole host of other things beyond the average mammal’s capacities.  We do this because the child is human; we thus assume that a human-specific upbringing is a better idea than raising him as a ferret.

But just as this is indicated by biologically determined species, so does his biologically determined sex indicate the wisdom of a sex-specific upbringing.  This gets at a once universally recognized truth:

Contrary to modern myth, sex stereotyping is actually a good and necessary thing.

It’s not the application of a “straitjacket” any more than is providing musical instruction to a music prodigy.  Rather, in the same vein, it is the process of recognizing the characteristic strengths and roles of each sex and providing teaching that will augment those strengths in preparation for those roles.  Just as targeted training can help turn that musical rough diamond into a maestro, it can turn girls and boys into women and men.

On the other hand, we could just continue down the “gender identity” road and turn the whole nation into San Francisco.



  • Beautifully articulated article that spells out the pathology that infects the Left

  • Islam & Homosexuality.

    The Qur’an and Homosexuality:

    There are five references in the Qur’an which have been cited as referring to gay and lesbian behavior. Some obviously deal with effeminate men and “masculine women.” The two main references to homosexual behavior are:

    “We also sent Lut : He said to his people : “Do ye commit lewdness such as no people in creation (ever) committed before you? For ye practice your lusts on men in preference to women: ye are indeed a people transgressing beyond bounds.” Qur’an 7:80-81

    “What! Of all creatures do ye come unto the males, and leave the wives your Lord created for you? Nay, but ye are forward folk.” Qur’an 26:165

    Both references relate to gay sexual activities; lesbian practices are not mentioned in the Qur’an.

    Lut is referred to as “Lot” in the Hebrew Scriptures. This passage is an apparent reference to the activities at Sodom and Gamorah. It seems to imply that there was no homosexual behavior before it first appeared in Sodom. This is a uniquely Islamic concept; it does not appear in Jewish or Christian beliefs. The passage also links the sin of Sodom (the reason for its destruction) to homosexuality.That linkage is contradicted by other verses in the Hebrew Scriptures.

    The Hadith and homosexuality: The Hadith are collections of sayings attributed to Muhammad. Many Hadiths (ahadith) discuss liwat (sexual intercourse between males). Two examples are:

    “When a man mounts another man, the throne of God shakes.”

    “Kill the one that is doing it and also kill the one that it is being done to.” (in reference to the active and passive partners in gay sexual intercourse)

    There is at least one mention of lesbian behavior mentioned in the Hadith: “Sihaq (lesbian sexual activity) of women is zina (illegitimate sexual intercourse) among them.”

    Traditionalist orthodox Muslims generally claim that the Hadith literature contains the authentic sayings of Muhammad. Many liberal Muslims doubt their authenticity. The latter might point out that during the times of the first Caliphs, Muslims did not know what to do with individuals guilty of “liwat/lutiyya”. No sahabi (companion) of Muhammad could quote a saying or decision of Muhammad relating to this question.

    Treatment of homosexuals within Islam:

    According to a pamphlet produced by Al-Fatiha, there is a consensus among Islamic scholars that all humans are naturally heterosexual. 5 Homosexuality is seen by scholars to be a sinful and perverted deviation from the norm. All Islamic schools of thought and jurisprudence consider gay acts to be unlawful. They differ in terms of penalty:

    The Hanafite school (currently seen mainly in South and Eastern Asia) teaches that no physical punishment is warranted.

    The Hanabalites, (widely followed in the Arab world) teach that severe punishment is warranted.

    The Sha’fi school of thought (also seen in the Arab world) requires a minimum of 4 adult male witnesses before a person can be found guilty of a homosexual act. Al-Fatiha estimates that 4,000 homosexuals have been executed in Iran since their revolution in 1979. 10 public executions of homosexuals have been performed in Afghanistan by the Taliban army.

    The Islamic Society of North America:

    Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi of the ISNA said: “Homosexuality is a moral disorder. It is a moral disease, a sin and corruption… No person is born homosexual, just like no one is born a thief, a liar or murderer. People acquire these evil habits due to a lack of proper guidance and education.””

    “There are many reasons why it is forbidden in Islam. Homosexuality is dangerous for the health of the individuals and for the society. It is a main cause of one of the most harmful and fatal diseases. It is disgraceful for both men and women. It degrades a person. Islam teaches that men should be men and women should be women. Homosexuality deprives a man of his manhood and a woman of her womanhood. It is the most un-natural way of life. Homosexuality leads to the destruction of family life.”

    I don’t know if many people know about this, but on the Internet, there are some pages about Muslims who are homosexuals. It is one issue to be Muslim and a homosexual, and another to try to justify this choice by Allah’s (The Exalted) book, the Quran, and the word’s of the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace). InshaAllah, in this post I will be dealing with the later issue. The first point to make clear is that as Muslims, we accept Allah (The Exalted) and His Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) as the authority and final word on what is right and wrong. This is in important point to be grasped. Otherwise, there is little use in discussing the issue. This is exactly where the people who try to justify homosexuality, and other practices and beliefs, from the Quran go wrong. The point of this post is to make clear the position of Islam on homosexuality so that there will be no doubts about it.

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