There's a term, it's called "hypocrites".
"Do as we say, not as we do"
Person P could say that one should do as G-D says.
P may then not live up to his own standards. But that doesn't make him a hypocrite. It doesn't mean he contradicted himself either. There is no evidence that P thinks that his sin was right. He is not a hypocrite reform jew.. who would probably say it's ok, do it in public, and say he is following judaism or the torah in doing that.
Good point. We all sin sometimes.
But we should know that it is a sin and correct ourselves.
We should never reach the point, where we begin to justify sinning through twisting the rules.
Right, I had relatives like this, my cousins who were raised modern orthodox and their parents followed strict kosher, my uncle even got very angry when my cousin poured milk while he was eating dinner but then my cousins were telling us how their parents would sneak shrimp or bacon at restaurant while they were sleeping. I wanted to say to my uncle "Do you think G-d doesn't know what you are doing?"
This is why I say "Do as I say, not as I do", even if a person knows it's wrong, it still makes them a hypocrite because they continue to do it thinking that G-d doesn't know.
Obviously the parents are not keeping strictly kosher. They are not keeping kosher AT ALL..
Not even by loose standards.
And if they sneak away it's probably not to hide from G-d, but to hide from man, to hide from their children.. because they don't want to set a bad example to them.
That is an unusual and absurd story..
Believe me, keeping kosher it's EASY to not eat pork and bacon.
And who is saying that these Charedim are saying "Do as I say". Or rather, that they say "Do as I say" in relation to looking at porn.
They aren't telling you not to look at porn. Maybe they wouldn't even if they corrected themselves.
And as I said already. It's not what "they" say, it's what G-D says.
They know that, and so should you.