I can't take credit for that phrase. I got it from a couple of very ironic pages that made fun of abortionists. I think that if the man was actually threatening her life and her baby's life that she acted in defense. However if she could have gotten away safely without killing him she should have done so.
What I mean is that I see a lot of condemnation of the women who have the abortions. The RCC for example automatically excommunicates those women without even getting into details about why they did it or who else was involved in the situation.
Of course some should be condemned, such as those who use it casually for birth control or kill their babies just because they're going to have Downs or dwarfism. However a large portion of the women are under heavy coercion, including threats on their lives if they don't have one, and I think the first response to these women should be compassion, not condemnation, and good people should let them see pro-lifers as their friends to help them give them another way, the way of life for them and their babies.