That is the crux of the problem in these assymetrical wars between western nations and savages. We fight fair and they don't. I think it is a mistake to think any niceness will turn the people to our side. I am not aware of any cases where it has worked. In places like Afghanistan the people support whoever scares them the most. One other problem, they know we will go away eventually but the Taliban will not. Whose [censored] do they need to kiss?