Daniel,
You did the right thing to apologize to the religious Jews on the forum. The one thing that personally shocked me most in your comments yesterday was to call them Nazis because they explained to you that there is no way that the Torah condones homosexual behavior. Reading your post, I believe you sincerely repent for that and that is a good thing.
A vast majority of JTFers, including me, resent homosexual behavior. One major reason is that this is a predominantly religious forum, but there are also strong non-religious reasons to resent homosexual behavior, in particular because it severely undermines the family structure which we all agree here to be an essential pillar of society.
However, I don't think any of us would advocate the use of violence against homosexuals, at least I certainly don't. I gather there are two categories of people in this forum :
1) Those who want to eliminate homosexuality - but with a compassionate approach, trying to help homosexuals overcome their issues and understanding that it is difficult for them.
2) Those, more "liberal", who tolerate homosexuality as long as it is kept private.
The one thing that, I believe, everyone resents here, including the more liberal ones, is the public promotion of homosexuality.
It must be very hard to have homosexual inclination and care for Judaism (or Christianity for that matter) at the same time, because I understand that this is not something you can get easily get rid of by an act of will : I guess that when you feel a spontaneous physical attraction to men, you can't suddenly reverse that and declare : "From now on, I'll feel attracted by women !".
About your voting for Obama, let's see things positively : I gather that you are a former left-winger and, at some point, you realized you were wrong and you joined JTF. Well, you're probably not the only one here ! As far as I'm concerned, I never was a leftist but I now realize I was once pretty dumb on some issues. What matters is whether you really have changed. Have you ?