Hey chaim. This is a long relationship question so apologies if its long winded.
1) You may remember i had some intense friendship/relationship with a girl i had feelings for, that never really materialised back in 2008. We had a arguement over something really stupid and trivial. After wishing her well in april 2009 i vowed to never contact her again and move on. Ive never had problems getting girls, and have dated many since. However shes kept inniating the contact, by either emailing me, texting me, private messenging me on facebook etc.She even has a nice boyfriend, so i was intrigued as to why she kept contacting through various online or mobile phone mediums on a monthly basis. What made it even more bizzare is i have this annual conference i go to, and she knew i went to this every year. So in 2009, and 2010 conferences both times she made sure i was going to them by text and email. Yet when i met her there ,she seemed really nervous round me. She would deliberately come over, only to be nervous or hard to engage with. Why would someone keep in contact with someone on a monthly basis yet when we meet in person be so afraid and nervous to be seen with me. She would come up to me, then almost walk away as she was talking to me. But never the less when intoxicated with alcohol she flirted, danced and engaged with me at these events. At the 2010 conference even when sober she engaged alot better with me in conversation, but she was still nervous about something. im not going to lie Chaim, it hurts when someone you like doesnt seem feel comfortable around you, especially when they come up to me???. So i had to end these games once and for all. I sent her a message to clear the air. Even though we live in different cities, i have asked her for me to take her out for lunch and clear the air. It was a real love/hate message where she either has to step up to the plate and me and her sort things out in person, or i will not be replying to her messages again as its not fair on on both of our repsected relationships. As i do not want to jepodise innocent people. have i done the right thing Chaim. I go quite emotional on the message and admitted how i felt about her, but i felt these games had to end once and for all. Do you agree with my actions?