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General Category => General Discussion => Topic started by: The Shadow on April 01, 2008, 12:55:53 AM
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How many years can you shave off of a working career if you dont have kids. My dad paid for college, camp and everything else, for my brothers and myself. If I had kids I would do the same.
Assuming that, I would venture to say each child costs about 10 full time working years, when you factor in college, cars, camp, health insurance and everything else.
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Just posting an economics question. Don't get all high, mighty and hateful if you disagree.
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Yes, kids are a major expense, no doubt about it, unless you go the welfare route, like some people I would never dare speak of, LOL.
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Shadow, as much as I am in favor of adopting-only and want no bio kids, these threads will only divide us and antagonize fellow members. Please stop this.
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A college educated or trade trained couple with two incomes & no kids could achieve complete financial independence in under 20 years if they prioratise. The same couple with kids will still be in debt before 20 years is up.
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Guys, I really do not think this is productive. You are basically insulting everyone here who wants biological children. I don't, but am not anti-procreation either. This is pointless.
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Guys, I really do not think this is productive. You are basically insulting everyone here who wants biological children. I don't, but am not anti-procreation either. This is pointless.
No we're not. You're making a presumption. Talking about the financial saving of running a compact car instead of an SUV is NOT insulting SUV drivers.
This is just putting the real cost of children into perspective.
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A college educated or trade trained couple with two incomes & no kids could achieve complete financial independence in under 20 years if they prioratise. The same couple with kids will still be in debt before 20 years is up.
Newman, I entirely agree with you as usual. I think it could reach 20 years as well. There is actually a book that came out called the dual income trap, that explains that 2 incomes are not enough today to raise a family and buy a house in a decent area in the suburbs.
I don't ever want to fall into this trap.
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You're not doing it in a very diplomatic way, though.
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I think that having an amount of children that you could raise in comfort is the proper way. I know their will be people that disagree with me on this but I get very upset during my few trips over to boro park because I see many of the parents who have large families don't properly take care of their children for many different reason. Of course I am not saying everyone is like this, but it's unfortunately not uncommon. I expect some people to disagree with me and thats fine.
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A college educated or trade trained couple with two incomes & no kids could achieve complete financial independence in under 20 years if they prioratise. The same couple with kids will still be in debt before 20 years is up.
Newman, I entirely agree with you as usual. I think it could reach 20 years as well. There is actually a book that came out called the dual income trap, that explains that 2 incomes are not enough today to raise a family and buy a house in a decent area in the suburbs.
I don't ever want to fall into this trap.
20+ years ago kids were calculated at 100K each when taking all costs plus interest, dividend income & capital gains lost through opportunity cost. I bet it's 200K a piece in today's money!
Give most people a choice of;
(a) small house, regular car, little retirement saving with kids OR,
(b) large house, summer home, SUV and early retirement and NO kids..
It's a no-brainer.
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Newman, you always make excellent points, you even supported it with numbers. I would like to another variable to your statistic. A single person, or couple without children doesn't require a large house. A nice sized condominium would suffice extremely well. In addition , the condominium can be purchased in an area that doesn't require a great school system- with a large school tax base. In other words, this couple or single male, would be able to save an extraudinary amount of money by avoiding the purchase of a larger house, and in area that has high taxation for a good school systems- which you would otherwise need if you had a child. I just read this view point in a book I purchased on line- whcih couldn't be more on the money. No pun intended
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Newman, you always make excellent points, you even supported it with numbers. I would like to another variable to your statistic. A single person, or couple without children doesn't require a large house. A nice sized condominium would suffice extremely well. In addition , the condominium can be purchased in an area that doesn't require a great school system- with a large school tax base. In other words, this couple or single male, would be able to save an extraudinary amount of money by avoiding the purchase of a larger house, and in area that has high taxation for a good school systems- which you would otherwise need if you had a child. I just read this view point in a book I purchased on line- whcih couldn't be more on the money. No pun intended
Smaller house, not near good school system, lower payments, less elecricity, washing machine lasts longer from less loads, investment products bought sooner accumulate more interest/dividends/capital gain. Smaller car required, too.
School fees, new clothes every 12 months, lunch money................boy I bet it adds up.
I'd like to see an actuary crunch the real numbers for 2008 at present real estate & other costs.
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Geesh C.F. Im a father of two, and Im not offended. THIS is not the kind of topic that would split us. For those types of topics... look at one of Nikmatdams post.
Kids are expensive... no doubt about it. However, for me,... from a cost benefit analysis.. Its not even close. They are well worth the $200,000 a piece or whatever it costs.
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In a perfect world having 3 or 4 kids would not be a problem. However, in today's society the fact remains that it no doubt poses a significant financial burden unless you are already very well to do or plan to live off of the government, or at the very least do without many of life's amenities. I can't see how it wouldn't be a burden in all frankness, but G-d bless the people who are willing to try and do it of course.
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Ari my friend, it's financial disaster today. I know many people in their late 50's and early 60's who can't retire because they are paying off college notes for their children. It's ubelievable! I just don't want to get involved in all that.
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Geesh C.F. Im a father of two, and Im not offended. THIS is not the kind of topic that would split us. For those types of topics... look at one of Nikmatdams post.
Kids are expensive... no doubt about it. However, for me,... from a cost benefit analysis.. Its not even close. They are well worth the $200,000 a piece or whatever it costs.
Still...................................
$200K would buy a real nice boat AND a Winnebago. The other $200K would get some nice retreat land in Wyoming or Idaho, too. :(
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Geesh C.F. Im a father of two, and Im not offended. THIS is not the kind of topic that would split us. For those types of topics... look at one of Nikmatdams post.
Kids are expensive... no doubt about it. However, for me,... from a cost benefit analysis.. Its not even close. They are well worth the $200,000 a piece or whatever it costs.
Still...................................
$200K would buy a real nice boat AND a Winnebago. The other $200K would get some nice retreat land in Wyoming or Idaho, too. :(
Its not for everyone. Idaho or Wyoming? Hmmm. maybe we'll move out there if Obama gets elected. At least until he infests it with refugees from Africa.
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Geesh C.F. Im a father of two, and Im not offended. THIS is not the kind of topic that would split us. For those types of topics... look at one of Nikmatdams post.
Kids are expensive... no doubt about it. However, for me,... from a cost benefit analysis.. Its not even close. They are well worth the $200,000 a piece or whatever it costs.
Still...................................
$200K would buy a real nice boat AND a Winnebago. The other $200K would get some nice retreat land in Wyoming or Idaho, too. :(
Its not for everyone. Idaho or Wyoming? Hmmm. maybe we'll move out there if Obama gets elected. At least until he infests it with refugees from Africa.
Idahoe & Wyoming are remarkably free of apes & beaners. They don't do well in the climate. Plus Republicans outnumber democats 2:1. Even then, democrats in WY or ID are more right-wing than NY Republicans.
There's begger-all welfare & public housing there so there's no lure for turd worlders.
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Geesh C.F. Im a father of two, and Im not offended. THIS is not the kind of topic that would split us. For those types of topics... look at one of Nikmatdams post.
Kids are expensive... no doubt about it. However, for me,... from a cost benefit analysis.. Its not even close. They are well worth the $200,000 a piece or whatever it costs.
Still...................................
$200K would buy a real nice boat AND a Winnebago. The other $200K would get some nice retreat land in Wyoming or Idaho, too. :(
Its not for everyone. Idaho or Wyoming? Hmmm. maybe we'll move out there if Obama gets elected. At least until he infests it with refugees from Africa.
Idahoe & Wyoming are remarkably free of apes & beaners. They don't do well in the climate. Plus Republicans outnumber democats 2:1. Even then, democrats in WY or ID are more right-wing than NY Republicans.
There's begger-all welfare & public housing there so there's no lure for turd worlders.
Yeahh. Id like to move outa So Cali. Its basically become a refugee state. EVERYONE.. is either illegal.. or their parents are illegals. But the weather is so dang nice.
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Geesh C.F. Im a father of two, and Im not offended. THIS is not the kind of topic that would split us. For those types of topics... look at one of Nikmatdams post.
Kids are expensive... no doubt about it. However, for me,... from a cost benefit analysis.. Its not even close. They are well worth the $200,000 a piece or whatever it costs.
Still...................................
$200K would buy a real nice boat AND a Winnebago. The other $200K would get some nice retreat land in Wyoming or Idaho, too. :(
Its not for everyone. Idaho or Wyoming? Hmmm. maybe we'll move out there if Obama gets elected. At least until he infests it with refugees from Africa.
Idahoe & Wyoming are remarkably free of apes & beaners. They don't do well in the climate. Plus Republicans outnumber democats 2:1. Even then, democrats in WY or ID are more right-wing than NY Republicans.
There's begger-all welfare & public housing there so there's no lure for turd worlders.
Yeahh. Id like to move outa So Cali. Its basically become a refugee state. EVERYONE.. is either illegal.. or their parents are illegals. But the weather is so dang nice.
I'll take a 'white christmas' over turd worlders in the sun.
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How many years can you shave off of a working career if you dont have kids.
The answer is 0. You would just spend the money on other things.
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The cost of college for only one child keeps me up late at night...sometimes in a cold sweat.
God Bless those who have to do it for more then one.
Still I would not give up being a parent for all the security it might afford me not to be one. I'll just have to work until I die. ;)
I don't think this is a devisive issue either C.F..
To each his own in life. Not everyone has the desire to raise children.
Sometimes it just doesn't work out, in life, for whatever reason.
I always wanted to have more then one...and I don't. :'(
I think it is great that you want to adopt children.
I admire you every time I read that.
Adoption is wonderful. I think about it all the time.
It is also an expensive proposition though. I know many people who have adopted. It usually has cost them plenty...but feel it was well worth it.
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The cost of college for only one child keeps me up late at night...sometimes in a cold sweat.
Bullcat Jr is worth it.
G-d Bless those who have to do it for more then one.
Still I would not give up being a parent for all the security it might afford me not to be one. I'll just have to work until I die. ;)
I don't think this is a devisive issue either C.F..
To each his own in life. Not everyone has the desire to raise children.
Sometimes it just doesn't work out, in life, for whatever reason.
I always wanted to have more then one...and I don't. :'(
Better the perfect ONE you've got than two average ones.
I think it is great that you want to adopt children.
I admire you every time I read that.
Adoption is wonderful. I think about it all the time.
It is also an expensive proposition though. I know many people who have adopted. It usually has cost them plenty...but feel it was well worth it.
Your child is wonderful. The little monsters that I'd likely sire aren't worth the headache.
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Thank You Newman...she is a gift from God. He could have left out the stubborn streak ;) but I'll keep her.
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Thank You Newman...she is a gift from G-d. He could have left out the stubborn streak ;) but I'll keep her.
I'll have a kid if you & your husband sell me a frozen egg. :)
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I think the best is, if the children help in the family business and learn there. This is the best way to have a lot of children, lesser expenses and this is helping to keep the family together.
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:::D :::D :::D
Nope - if and when you find the right lady - then you will get the 'perfect' child.
My cousin used a surrogate Mother to have his child. I think his wife was too old (but that is just speculation). Every one was beside themselves. His parents were against it. Darn - if that child does not look just like him - and bring that whole family great joy.
I'm not sure where I stand on all that stuff :-\ but that line of thought just opens up another can of worms - doesn't it?
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I think the best is, if the children help in the family business and learn there. This is the best way to have a lot of children, lesser expenses and this is helping to keep the family together.
What if you don't have a family business?
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:::D :::D :::D
Nope - if and when you find the right lady - then you will get the 'perfect' child.
My cousin used a surrogate Mother to have his child. I think his wife was too old (but that is just speculation). Every one was beside themselves. His parents were against it. Darn - if that child does not look just like him - and bring that whole family great joy.
I'm not sure where I stand on all that stuff :-\ but that line of thought just opens up another can of worms - doesn't it?
No no no. I want your egg fertilised by your hubby. That way I get a Bullcat Jr Mk 11 and not a horror show like I was.
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Funny! :)
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:::D :::D :::D
Nope - if and when you find the right lady - then you will get the 'perfect' child.
My cousin used a surrogate Mother to have his child. I think his wife was too old (but that is just speculation). Every one was beside themselves. His parents were against it. Darn - if that child does not look just like him - and bring that whole family great joy.
What do they say?
hmmmm...Becareful what you wish for.
That might not be exactly what you are bargaining for.
Only time will tell. She is quite fiesty.
She could probably give you, at her age, a run for your money.
I'm not sure where I stand on all that stuff :-\ but that line of thought just opens up another can of worms - doesn't it?
No no no. I want your egg fertilised by your hubby. That way I get a Bullcat Jr Mk 11 and not a horror show like I was.
What do they say?
hmmmm...Becareful what you wish for.
That might not be exactly what you are bargaining for.
Only time will tell. She is quite fiesty.
She could probably give you, at her age, a run for your money.
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:::D :::D :::D
Nope - if and when you find the right lady - then you will get the 'perfect' child.
My cousin used a surrogate Mother to have his child. I think his wife was too old (but that is just speculation). Every one was beside themselves. His parents were against it. Darn - if that child does not look just like him - and bring that whole family great joy.
What do they say?
hmmmm...Becareful what you wish for.
That might not be exactly what you are bargaining for.
Only time will tell. She is quite fiesty.
She could probably give you, at her age, a run for your money.
I'm not sure where I stand on all that stuff :-\ but that line of thought just opens up another can of worms - doesn't it?
No no no. I want your egg fertilised by your hubby. That way I get a Bullcat Jr Mk 11 and not a horror show like I was.
What do they say?
hmmmm...Becareful what you wish for.
That might not be exactly what you are bargaining for.
Only time will tell. She is quite fiesty.
She could probably give you, at her age, a run for your money.
That's the Italian in her.
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I think the best is, if the children help in the family business and learn there. This is the best way to have a lot of children, lesser expenses and this is helping to keep the family together.
What if you don't have a family business?
Then start a business O0
The first years are harder than hard [I can tell], but after you have survived a few years it is a very good feeling.
No boss can pressure you or even fire you O0
And child care is no problem. O0
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I think the best is, if the children help in the family business and learn there. This is the best way to have a lot of children, lesser expenses and this is helping to keep the family together.
What if you don't have a family business?
Then start a business O0
The first years are harder than hard [I can tell], but after you have survived a few years it is a very good feeling.
No boss can pressure you or even fire you O0
And child care is no problem. O0
WELL said!!!
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How many years can you shave off of a working career if you dont have kids. My dad paid for college, camp and everything else, for my brothers and myself. If I had kids I would do the same.
Assuming that, I would venture to say each child costs about 10 full time working years, when you factor in college, cars, camp, health insurance and everything else.
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Just posting an economics question. Don't get all high, mighty and hateful if you disagree.
Strictly speaking, I think if you were robot with no emotions or social needs, it would no doubt be less expensive to not have children than otherwise. However, assuming one is not a robot, much happiness and fulfillment can be derived from children, thus perhaps motivating one to be more financially sucessful. To each their own. Some people really don't want kids; I think they are confused about their priorities, but that is not my call. Since you ask I assume you have some doubt concerning the matter.
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I think the best is, if the children help in the family business and learn there. This is the best way to have a lot of children, lesser expenses and this is helping to keep the family together.
What if you don't have a family business?
Then start a business O0
The first years are harder than hard [I can tell], but after you have survived a few years it is a very good feeling.
No boss can pressure you or even fire you O0
And child care is no problem. O0
I'm not sure I'm up to the challenge at this point in my life.
I admire people who can manage to do that successfully.
Do you run a family business?
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I think the best is, if the children help in the family business and learn there. This is the best way to have a lot of children, lesser expenses and this is helping to keep the family together.
What if you don't have a family business?
Then start a business O0
The first years are harder than hard [I can tell], but after you have survived a few years it is a very good feeling.
No boss can pressure you or even fire you O0
And child care is no problem. O0
I'm not sure I'm up to the challenge at this point in my life.
I admire people who can manage to do that successfully.
Do you run a family business?
Yes! I have founded it before seven years and my old mother and father are working with me. O0
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Shadow, as much as I am in favor of adopting-only and want no bio kids, these threads will only divide us and antagonize fellow members. Please stop this.
;D what are you a female? Or are you ashamed of your race or something? It just sounds funny that someone would want other people's kids and not their own, G-d forbid that this should happen to Jews.
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the sadow - thats why you have to have Emuna. Dont worry if you have kids you will not go hungry, worse comes to worse their is allways welfare, and about College you dont have to pay for it, the kids could get jobs and loans or go to community colleges which are allmost free or are free for many. Sending to Yeshivot- you can get sponserships who can support and help, maybe even pay in full if your lucky.
lets not make $ the #1 priority in life, which would make it like idol worship- worshiping the doller, which is destined to fall anyway (like everything else).
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On the lighter side, my father used to say "Just when you think you've found the women for you, the one who will make you happy and fulfilled, you're wrong." :::D :::D
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I think the best is, if the children help in the family business and learn there. This is the best way to have a lot of children, lesser expenses and this is helping to keep the family together.
What if you don't have a family business?
Then start a business O0
The first years are harder than hard [I can tell], but after you have survived a few years it is a very good feeling.
No boss can pressure you or even fire you O0
And child care is no problem. O0
I'm not sure I'm up to the challenge at this point in my life.
I admire people who can manage to do that successfully.
Do you run a family business?
Yes! I have founded it before seven years and my old mother and father are working with me. O0
That is great!
It is nice that you can work and enjoy your family at the same time.
Who better to help you with your business then your parents.
They have your best interest at heart. :)
Congratulations.
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the sadow - thats why you have to have Emuna. Dont worry if you have kids you will not go hungry, worse comes to worse their is allways welfare, and about College you dont have to pay for it, the kids could get jobs and loans or go to community colleges which are allmost free or are free for many. Sending to Yeshivot- you can get sponserships who can support and help, maybe even pay in full if your lucky.
lets not make $ the #1 priority in life, which would make it like idol worship- worshiping the doller, which is destined to fall anyway (like everything else).
There's always welfare? Wow, what a consolation welfare is!
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What I meant is that some very religious members of the forum may be offended by describing children in this way. I am glad that didn't happen. So, it's over...
I know adopting is expensive--more expensive than bio kids in the short run, but in the long run... not so much. There are a lot more medical costs to the mother with bio kids, obviously. If I can never afford adoption, I just won't have kids. I have zero interest in fathering blood children whatsoever--never have.
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What I meant is that some very religious members of the forum may be offended by describing children in this way. I am glad that didn't happen. So, it's over...
I know adopting is expensive--more expensive than bio kids in the short run, but in the long run... not so much. There are a lot more medical costs to the mother with bio kids, obviously. If I can never afford adoption, I just won't have kids. I have zero interest in fathering blood children whatsoever--never have.
I don't want 'blood children' because I'm terrified they'll turn out like me. What's your reason, if I may ask, CF?
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What I meant is that some very religious members of the forum may be offended by describing children in this way. I am glad that didn't happen. So, it's over...
I know adopting is expensive--more expensive than bio kids in the short run, but in the long run... not so much. There are a lot more medical costs to the mother with bio kids, obviously. If I can never afford adoption, I just won't have kids. I have zero interest in fathering blood children whatsoever--never have.
I agree that 'adoption' is a great choice C.F..
I'm sure you will be a great parent, to your children, when the time comes. :)
I did not think of the question from a Religious perspective - I see your point.