Im with you Infidel, the guy raising his own kid, hes likely to be stable and responsible. I married someone who was raising his 2 sons, because their mother (and his wife) ran off for 'greener pastures', even though we arent together anymore, he and I are still great friends, and I still love the boys and make sure they get gifts and phone calls (they live on the west coast now, so no where near me) and I just attended the high school graduation of the youngest one:)