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Dr. Dan:

--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 01:17:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:06:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: Ambiorix on February 01, 2008, 01:01:38 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:58:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 12:43:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:37:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:12:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 10:06:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:02:15 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 08:14:47 PM ---Sex education was only introduced in schools around 40 years years ago.

Are there MORE or LESS abortions and bastard babies now days?

I rest my case.

--- End quote ---
You haven't proven that sex education is the reason for abortions or the increase of out of wedlock babies are born. The LACK of the service and the LACK of the parents talking openly about sex to their children is the reason all of this is happening, newman. Rest your case on that.

--- End quote ---

I didn't say sex ed was the reason. But it hasn't improved anything either. You've just stated what most opponents of sex ed say. 'it's up to parents'.

--- End quote ---
Who else is it supposed to be up to, Newman?  THe reason why Sex ed was thought of in the first place is because a rash of teenaged girls and boys started having sex and children at early ages; because their parents weren't talking to them. It IS up to the parents to teach their children about sex. Now how are the teens supposed to learn about sex, newman? By osmosis? What? They're supposed to just get older and all of a sudden "DING" they've gotten the idea? Also, remember...schools have something to lose when they have more pregnant students. THat means more drop outs. That leads to the school being closed down.

If you had children and they were 6 or even 7 years old and asked you about sex, what would you tell them?



--- End quote ---

At the age of 6 or 7, I would say that kissing on the lips makes babies...and then when they are older I will change the story around.

--- End quote ---
So you'd lie to them? And when the time comes to "Change the story around" what will you say then?

--- End quote ---

I knew what the male and female anatomy looked like when i was 3-4 years old.  However I would have never understood how it really worked in a sexual way. I had always been under the impression that women became pregnant by open mouth kissing.  And in sex education in 5th grade i learned about the internal anatomies and the changing of the woman's and the man's body. In 7th grade I learned that a certain rubbing had to take place but not how.  And then 12 and a half I came across a porno and finally put one and one together.

I would rather my kids have a curiosity but have an innocence about them.  Young children aren't ready to hear the real way sex takes place...they don't need to be told about sperms and eggs.  They shoudl be kept away from any kind of pornographic images until they are the right age to come across it accidentally. By the time they are teenagers and in their reproductive mode, certainly I will give them a nice lesson on how it's done and how they should deal with it morally and with love.

but little kids dont' need to know the details...I'll just tell them the stork story...until they are mature enough to hear the real one later on. 

--- End quote ---
Of course Dr.Dan. That's the way people taught their children for generations.
Children on farms, saw what the animals did.
But it was out of the question to talk openly about sex, with young children.


--- End quote ---

i didn't grow up on a farm...I'm just saying this is what worked for with me...every parent will have his/her own way to teach their child about sex.  For me, sex is something that shoudl be kept very private and modest...but every one of my children will different and my wife will be my help...so it will be between the both of us on how we will decide on how to talk to our kids.

--- End quote ---
I can respect that.

I can't do it that way though because by the time kids are 13 nowadays it's too late to break out the truth (or semi-truth). I found this out with my stepdaughter who was 13 when she came to live with us in NY. She took me to the side and asked me about sex because her mom still hadn't told her about it. When she asked her mom,she told her that she got pregnant from kissing. Then she told her that a baby comes from gushy stuff in the stomach. I'm still shivering from that response. My 13 year old stepdaughter didn't now what sex was  at all. I didn't want her going throughout life thinking that way so I broke it down for her. I drew pictures, explained in detail how the reproductive system works but  more importantly that she should save herself. She is now going to be 17, and she's still a virgin. After seeing how telling her half-truths affected her outlook on sex, I knew from there how I wanted to tackle the subject with my biological kids when its time for them to learn.

--- End quote ---

erica, I compeltely respect what you did.  At the age of 13 or 12 let's say whatever it is, it is quite ok to tell a complete truth like the way you did. I'm referring to 5,6, 7 year olds...they are not equipped to understand the complexities of love and actual sex.  12 and 13 year olds who's bodies are changing...you can talk about all that and introduce morality..which it seems you did...

It would be a mistake otherwise, to keep it away from a young adult. Sex is a natural part of life and it woudl be wrong not to tell the truth when kids are at teh proper age of understanding it.

Just Erica:

--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:25:42 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 01:17:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:06:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: Ambiorix on February 01, 2008, 01:01:38 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:58:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 12:43:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:37:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:12:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 10:06:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:02:15 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 08:14:47 PM ---Sex education was only introduced in schools around 40 years years ago.

Are there MORE or LESS abortions and bastard babies now days?

I rest my case.

--- End quote ---
You haven't proven that sex education is the reason for abortions or the increase of out of wedlock babies are born. The LACK of the service and the LACK of the parents talking openly about sex to their children is the reason all of this is happening, newman. Rest your case on that.

--- End quote ---

I didn't say sex ed was the reason. But it hasn't improved anything either. You've just stated what most opponents of sex ed say. 'it's up to parents'.

--- End quote ---
Who else is it supposed to be up to, Newman?  THe reason why Sex ed was thought of in the first place is because a rash of teenaged girls and boys started having sex and children at early ages; because their parents weren't talking to them. It IS up to the parents to teach their children about sex. Now how are the teens supposed to learn about sex, newman? By osmosis? What? They're supposed to just get older and all of a sudden "DING" they've gotten the idea? Also, remember...schools have something to lose when they have more pregnant students. THat means more drop outs. That leads to the school being closed down.

If you had children and they were 6 or even 7 years old and asked you about sex, what would you tell them?



--- End quote ---

At the age of 6 or 7, I would say that kissing on the lips makes babies...and then when they are older I will change the story around.

--- End quote ---
So you'd lie to them? And when the time comes to "Change the story around" what will you say then?

--- End quote ---

I knew what the male and female anatomy looked like when i was 3-4 years old.  However I would have never understood how it really worked in a sexual way. I had always been under the impression that women became pregnant by open mouth kissing.  And in sex education in 5th grade i learned about the internal anatomies and the changing of the woman's and the man's body. In 7th grade I learned that a certain rubbing had to take place but not how.  And then 12 and a half I came across a porno and finally put one and one together.

I would rather my kids have a curiosity but have an innocence about them.  Young children aren't ready to hear the real way sex takes place...they don't need to be told about sperms and eggs.  They shoudl be kept away from any kind of pornographic images until they are the right age to come across it accidentally. By the time they are teenagers and in their reproductive mode, certainly I will give them a nice lesson on how it's done and how they should deal with it morally and with love.

but little kids dont' need to know the details...I'll just tell them the stork story...until they are mature enough to hear the real one later on. 

--- End quote ---
Of course Dr.Dan. That's the way people taught their children for generations.
Children on farms, saw what the animals did.
But it was out of the question to talk openly about sex, with young children.


--- End quote ---

i didn't grow up on a farm...I'm just saying this is what worked for with me...every parent will have his/her own way to teach their child about sex.  For me, sex is something that shoudl be kept very private and modest...but every one of my children will different and my wife will be my help...so it will be between the both of us on how we will decide on how to talk to our kids.

--- End quote ---
I can respect that.

I can't do it that way though because by the time kids are 13 nowadays it's too late to break out the truth (or semi-truth). I found this out with my stepdaughter who was 13 when she came to live with us in NY. She took me to the side and asked me about sex because her mom still hadn't told her about it. When she asked her mom,she told her that she got pregnant from kissing. Then she told her that a baby comes from gushy stuff in the stomach. I'm still shivering from that response. My 13 year old stepdaughter didn't now what sex was  at all. I didn't want her going throughout life thinking that way so I broke it down for her. I drew pictures, explained in detail how the reproductive system works but  more importantly that she should save herself. She is now going to be 17, and she's still a virgin. After seeing how telling her half-truths affected her outlook on sex, I knew from there how I wanted to tackle the subject with my biological kids when its time for them to learn.

--- End quote ---

erica, I compeltely respect what you did.  At the age of 13 or 12 let's say whatever it is, it is quite ok to tell a complete truth like the way you did. I'm referring to 5,6, 7 year olds...they are not equipped to understand the complexities of love and actual sex.  12 and 13 year olds who's bodies are changing...you can talk about all that and introduce morality..which it seems you did...

It would be a mistake otherwise, to keep it away from a young adult. Sex is a natural part of life and it woudl be wrong not to tell the truth when kids are at teh proper age of understanding it.

--- End quote ---
Being candid isn't going to work here so excuse my frankness ladies and gentlemen. My 3 year old asked me once why her dad and I kissed each other. I told her it's because  we love each other. Since then, everytime she witnesses us kiss each other, she tells her sisters that we're loving each other...which is the God's honest truth. She has also asked about the names of her body parts...every one of them and I told her exactly what they are. THat way,if something hurts her she can tell me what it is that is hurting instead of being afraid to say the actual words. My oldest biological daughter walked in on us one night...we had a gaggle of questions to answer  the next morning...and we answered her. She needed to know. I think children are the best gauges when it comes when they want to know about sex and other subjects.

I'm not afraid of sexuality so I'm going to naturally be open with my daughters. More open than my own mother was .

Dr. Dan:

--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 01:35:23 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:25:42 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 01:17:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:06:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: Ambiorix on February 01, 2008, 01:01:38 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:58:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 12:43:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:37:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:12:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 10:06:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:02:15 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 08:14:47 PM ---Sex education was only introduced in schools around 40 years years ago.

Are there MORE or LESS abortions and bastard babies now days?

I rest my case.

--- End quote ---
You haven't proven that sex education is the reason for abortions or the increase of out of wedlock babies are born. The LACK of the service and the LACK of the parents talking openly about sex to their children is the reason all of this is happening, newman. Rest your case on that.

--- End quote ---

I didn't say sex ed was the reason. But it hasn't improved anything either. You've just stated what most opponents of sex ed say. 'it's up to parents'.

--- End quote ---
Who else is it supposed to be up to, Newman?  THe reason why Sex ed was thought of in the first place is because a rash of teenaged girls and boys started having sex and children at early ages; because their parents weren't talking to them. It IS up to the parents to teach their children about sex. Now how are the teens supposed to learn about sex, newman? By osmosis? What? They're supposed to just get older and all of a sudden "DING" they've gotten the idea? Also, remember...schools have something to lose when they have more pregnant students. THat means more drop outs. That leads to the school being closed down.

If you had children and they were 6 or even 7 years old and asked you about sex, what would you tell them?



--- End quote ---

At the age of 6 or 7, I would say that kissing on the lips makes babies...and then when they are older I will change the story around.

--- End quote ---
So you'd lie to them? And when the time comes to "Change the story around" what will you say then?

--- End quote ---

I knew what the male and female anatomy looked like when i was 3-4 years old.  However I would have never understood how it really worked in a sexual way. I had always been under the impression that women became pregnant by open mouth kissing.  And in sex education in 5th grade i learned about the internal anatomies and the changing of the woman's and the man's body. In 7th grade I learned that a certain rubbing had to take place but not how.  And then 12 and a half I came across a porno and finally put one and one together.

I would rather my kids have a curiosity but have an innocence about them.  Young children aren't ready to hear the real way sex takes place...they don't need to be told about sperms and eggs.  They shoudl be kept away from any kind of pornographic images until they are the right age to come across it accidentally. By the time they are teenagers and in their reproductive mode, certainly I will give them a nice lesson on how it's done and how they should deal with it morally and with love.

but little kids dont' need to know the details...I'll just tell them the stork story...until they are mature enough to hear the real one later on. 

--- End quote ---
Of course Dr.Dan. That's the way people taught their children for generations.
Children on farms, saw what the animals did.
But it was out of the question to talk openly about sex, with young children.


--- End quote ---

i didn't grow up on a farm...I'm just saying this is what worked for with me...every parent will have his/her own way to teach their child about sex.  For me, sex is something that shoudl be kept very private and modest...but every one of my children will different and my wife will be my help...so it will be between the both of us on how we will decide on how to talk to our kids.

--- End quote ---
I can respect that.

I can't do it that way though because by the time kids are 13 nowadays it's too late to break out the truth (or semi-truth). I found this out with my stepdaughter who was 13 when she came to live with us in NY. She took me to the side and asked me about sex because her mom still hadn't told her about it. When she asked her mom,she told her that she got pregnant from kissing. Then she told her that a baby comes from gushy stuff in the stomach. I'm still shivering from that response. My 13 year old stepdaughter didn't now what sex was  at all. I didn't want her going throughout life thinking that way so I broke it down for her. I drew pictures, explained in detail how the reproductive system works but  more importantly that she should save herself. She is now going to be 17, and she's still a virgin. After seeing how telling her half-truths affected her outlook on sex, I knew from there how I wanted to tackle the subject with my biological kids when its time for them to learn.

--- End quote ---

erica, I compeltely respect what you did.  At the age of 13 or 12 let's say whatever it is, it is quite ok to tell a complete truth like the way you did. I'm referring to 5,6, 7 year olds...they are not equipped to understand the complexities of love and actual sex.  12 and 13 year olds who's bodies are changing...you can talk about all that and introduce morality..which it seems you did...

It would be a mistake otherwise, to keep it away from a young adult. Sex is a natural part of life and it woudl be wrong not to tell the truth when kids are at teh proper age of understanding it.

--- End quote ---
Being candid isn't going to work here so excuse my frankness ladies and gentlemen. My 3 year old asked me once why her dad and I kissed each other. I told her it's because  we love each other. Since then, everytime she witnesses us kiss each other, she tells her sisters that we're loving each other...which is the G-d's honest truth. She has also asked about the names of her body parts...every one of them and I told her exactly what they are. THat way,if something hurts her she can tell me what it is that is hurting instead of being afraid to say the actual words. My oldest biological daughter walked in on us one night...we had a gaggle of questions to answer  the next morning...and we answered her. She needed to know. I think children are the best gauges when it comes when they want to know about sex and other subjects.

I'm not afraid of sexuality so I'm going to naturally be open with my daughters. More open than my own mother was .

--- End quote ---

As long as you can explain it to them in the proper perspective all the power to you. I can't tell you how to be a mother to your daughters especially if i don't have any of my own.

Just Erica:

--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:48:26 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 01:35:23 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:25:42 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 01:17:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:06:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: Ambiorix on February 01, 2008, 01:01:38 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:58:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 12:43:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:37:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:12:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 10:06:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:02:15 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 08:14:47 PM ---Sex education was only introduced in schools around 40 years years ago.

Are there MORE or LESS abortions and bastard babies now days?

I rest my case.

--- End quote ---
You haven't proven that sex education is the reason for abortions or the increase of out of wedlock babies are born. The LACK of the service and the LACK of the parents talking openly about sex to their children is the reason all of this is happening, newman. Rest your case on that.

--- End quote ---

I didn't say sex ed was the reason. But it hasn't improved anything either. You've just stated what most opponents of sex ed say. 'it's up to parents'.

--- End quote ---
Who else is it supposed to be up to, Newman?  THe reason why Sex ed was thought of in the first place is because a rash of teenaged girls and boys started having sex and children at early ages; because their parents weren't talking to them. It IS up to the parents to teach their children about sex. Now how are the teens supposed to learn about sex, newman? By osmosis? What? They're supposed to just get older and all of a sudden "DING" they've gotten the idea? Also, remember...schools have something to lose when they have more pregnant students. THat means more drop outs. That leads to the school being closed down.

If you had children and they were 6 or even 7 years old and asked you about sex, what would you tell them?



--- End quote ---

At the age of 6 or 7, I would say that kissing on the lips makes babies...and then when they are older I will change the story around.

--- End quote ---
So you'd lie to them? And when the time comes to "Change the story around" what will you say then?

--- End quote ---

I knew what the male and female anatomy looked like when i was 3-4 years old.  However I would have never understood how it really worked in a sexual way. I had always been under the impression that women became pregnant by open mouth kissing.  And in sex education in 5th grade i learned about the internal anatomies and the changing of the woman's and the man's body. In 7th grade I learned that a certain rubbing had to take place but not how.  And then 12 and a half I came across a porno and finally put one and one together.

I would rather my kids have a curiosity but have an innocence about them.  Young children aren't ready to hear the real way sex takes place...they don't need to be told about sperms and eggs.  They shoudl be kept away from any kind of pornographic images until they are the right age to come across it accidentally. By the time they are teenagers and in their reproductive mode, certainly I will give them a nice lesson on how it's done and how they should deal with it morally and with love.

but little kids dont' need to know the details...I'll just tell them the stork story...until they are mature enough to hear the real one later on. 

--- End quote ---
Of course Dr.Dan. That's the way people taught their children for generations.
Children on farms, saw what the animals did.
But it was out of the question to talk openly about sex, with young children.


--- End quote ---

i didn't grow up on a farm...I'm just saying this is what worked for with me...every parent will have his/her own way to teach their child about sex.  For me, sex is something that shoudl be kept very private and modest...but every one of my children will different and my wife will be my help...so it will be between the both of us on how we will decide on how to talk to our kids.

--- End quote ---
I can respect that.

I can't do it that way though because by the time kids are 13 nowadays it's too late to break out the truth (or semi-truth). I found this out with my stepdaughter who was 13 when she came to live with us in NY. She took me to the side and asked me about sex because her mom still hadn't told her about it. When she asked her mom,she told her that she got pregnant from kissing. Then she told her that a baby comes from gushy stuff in the stomach. I'm still shivering from that response. My 13 year old stepdaughter didn't now what sex was  at all. I didn't want her going throughout life thinking that way so I broke it down for her. I drew pictures, explained in detail how the reproductive system works but  more importantly that she should save herself. She is now going to be 17, and she's still a virgin. After seeing how telling her half-truths affected her outlook on sex, I knew from there how I wanted to tackle the subject with my biological kids when its time for them to learn.

--- End quote ---

erica, I compeltely respect what you did.  At the age of 13 or 12 let's say whatever it is, it is quite ok to tell a complete truth like the way you did. I'm referring to 5,6, 7 year olds...they are not equipped to understand the complexities of love and actual sex.  12 and 13 year olds who's bodies are changing...you can talk about all that and introduce morality..which it seems you did...

It would be a mistake otherwise, to keep it away from a young adult. Sex is a natural part of life and it woudl be wrong not to tell the truth when kids are at teh proper age of understanding it.

--- End quote ---
Being candid isn't going to work here so excuse my frankness ladies and gentlemen. My 3 year old asked me once why her dad and I kissed each other. I told her it's because  we love each other. Since then, everytime she witnesses us kiss each other, she tells her sisters that we're loving each other...which is the G-d's honest truth. She has also asked about the names of her body parts...every one of them and I told her exactly what they are. THat way,if something hurts her she can tell me what it is that is hurting instead of being afraid to say the actual words. My oldest biological daughter walked in on us one night...we had a gaggle of questions to answer  the next morning...and we answered her. She needed to know. I think children are the best gauges when it comes when they want to know about sex and other subjects.

I'm not afraid of sexuality so I'm going to naturally be open with my daughters. More open than my own mother was .

--- End quote ---

As long as you can explain it to them in the proper perspective all the power to you. I can't tell you how to be a mother to your daughters especially if i don't have any of my own.

--- End quote ---
That's the whole idea of sex ed in schools (except the story I read here where some idiot went into a school and told kids to do drugs and have sex ...) Sex ed is as much about prevention of STD's as it is about abstinence. I think that if there are parents who find it strange that sex ed is taught in school,  that they should visit the shools during the classes so that they can get an idea on what 's actually being said there.

Dr. Dan:

--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 01:56:03 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:48:26 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 01:35:23 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:25:42 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 01:17:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 01:06:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: Ambiorix on February 01, 2008, 01:01:38 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:58:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on February 01, 2008, 12:43:05 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dr. Dan on February 01, 2008, 12:37:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:12:10 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 10:06:28 PM ---
--- Quote from: Just Erica on January 29, 2008, 10:02:15 PM ---
--- Quote from: newman on January 29, 2008, 08:14:47 PM ---Sex education was only introduced in schools around 40 years years ago.

Are there MORE or LESS abortions and bastard babies now days?

I rest my case.

--- End quote ---
You haven't proven that sex education is the reason for abortions or the increase of out of wedlock babies are born. The LACK of the service and the LACK of the parents talking openly about sex to their children is the reason all of this is happening, newman. Rest your case on that.

--- End quote ---

I didn't say sex ed was the reason. But it hasn't improved anything either. You've just stated what most opponents of sex ed say. 'it's up to parents'.

--- End quote ---
Who else is it supposed to be up to, Newman?  THe reason why Sex ed was thought of in the first place is because a rash of teenaged girls and boys started having sex and children at early ages; because their parents weren't talking to them. It IS up to the parents to teach their children about sex. Now how are the teens supposed to learn about sex, newman? By osmosis? What? They're supposed to just get older and all of a sudden "DING" they've gotten the idea? Also, remember...schools have something to lose when they have more pregnant students. THat means more drop outs. That leads to the school being closed down.

If you had children and they were 6 or even 7 years old and asked you about sex, what would you tell them?



--- End quote ---

At the age of 6 or 7, I would say that kissing on the lips makes babies...and then when they are older I will change the story around.

--- End quote ---
So you'd lie to them? And when the time comes to "Change the story around" what will you say then?

--- End quote ---

I knew what the male and female anatomy looked like when i was 3-4 years old.  However I would have never understood how it really worked in a sexual way. I had always been under the impression that women became pregnant by open mouth kissing.  And in sex education in 5th grade i learned about the internal anatomies and the changing of the woman's and the man's body. In 7th grade I learned that a certain rubbing had to take place but not how.  And then 12 and a half I came across a porno and finally put one and one together.

I would rather my kids have a curiosity but have an innocence about them.  Young children aren't ready to hear the real way sex takes place...they don't need to be told about sperms and eggs.  They shoudl be kept away from any kind of pornographic images until they are the right age to come across it accidentally. By the time they are teenagers and in their reproductive mode, certainly I will give them a nice lesson on how it's done and how they should deal with it morally and with love.

but little kids dont' need to know the details...I'll just tell them the stork story...until they are mature enough to hear the real one later on. 

--- End quote ---
Of course Dr.Dan. That's the way people taught their children for generations.
Children on farms, saw what the animals did.
But it was out of the question to talk openly about sex, with young children.


--- End quote ---

i didn't grow up on a farm...I'm just saying this is what worked for with me...every parent will have his/her own way to teach their child about sex.  For me, sex is something that shoudl be kept very private and modest...but every one of my children will different and my wife will be my help...so it will be between the both of us on how we will decide on how to talk to our kids.

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I can respect that.

I can't do it that way though because by the time kids are 13 nowadays it's too late to break out the truth (or semi-truth). I found this out with my stepdaughter who was 13 when she came to live with us in NY. She took me to the side and asked me about sex because her mom still hadn't told her about it. When she asked her mom,she told her that she got pregnant from kissing. Then she told her that a baby comes from gushy stuff in the stomach. I'm still shivering from that response. My 13 year old stepdaughter didn't now what sex was  at all. I didn't want her going throughout life thinking that way so I broke it down for her. I drew pictures, explained in detail how the reproductive system works but  more importantly that she should save herself. She is now going to be 17, and she's still a virgin. After seeing how telling her half-truths affected her outlook on sex, I knew from there how I wanted to tackle the subject with my biological kids when its time for them to learn.

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erica, I compeltely respect what you did.  At the age of 13 or 12 let's say whatever it is, it is quite ok to tell a complete truth like the way you did. I'm referring to 5,6, 7 year olds...they are not equipped to understand the complexities of love and actual sex.  12 and 13 year olds who's bodies are changing...you can talk about all that and introduce morality..which it seems you did...

It would be a mistake otherwise, to keep it away from a young adult. Sex is a natural part of life and it woudl be wrong not to tell the truth when kids are at teh proper age of understanding it.

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Being candid isn't going to work here so excuse my frankness ladies and gentlemen. My 3 year old asked me once why her dad and I kissed each other. I told her it's because  we love each other. Since then, everytime she witnesses us kiss each other, she tells her sisters that we're loving each other...which is the G-d's honest truth. She has also asked about the names of her body parts...every one of them and I told her exactly what they are. THat way,if something hurts her she can tell me what it is that is hurting instead of being afraid to say the actual words. My oldest biological daughter walked in on us one night...we had a gaggle of questions to answer  the next morning...and we answered her. She needed to know. I think children are the best gauges when it comes when they want to know about sex and other subjects.

I'm not afraid of sexuality so I'm going to naturally be open with my daughters. More open than my own mother was .

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As long as you can explain it to them in the proper perspective all the power to you. I can't tell you how to be a mother to your daughters especially if i don't have any of my own.

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That's the whole idea of sex ed in schools (except the story I read here where some idiot went into a school and told kids to do drugs and have sex ...) Sex ed is as much about prevention of STD's as it is about abstinence. I think that if there are parents who find it strange that sex ed is taught in school,  that they should visit the shools during the classes so that they can get an idea on what 's actually being said there.

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Some sex ed is good

But in a lot of other places they teach about homosexuality sex and oral sex and other stuff. Like i said, Anatomy and biology shoudl be taught when teaching sex ed.

And the parents have a bigger duty teach the rest especially morality.

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