Dr. Dan I have a very good Shiur for you, where you will definitely understand and see things much better (he will explain it to you much better then me, although I see you understand me).
http://www.kolyakov.org/Rabbi/Ilan_Meirov/ - This is Rabbi Ilan Meirov, he's a very good guy, a great Torah scholar (He used to be my Havruta, and I do believe that I did influence him in some of the Halachot brought by Rav Kahane ZTL, in the discussions we had
- dealing with the arab problem, etc.) Truly a righteous Tzaddik who does a lot of work in public and especially behind the scenes (I know of a few great things he does, but his brothers told me to not tell people because he just doesn't want the attention).
listen to "Commandments or Suggestions" - its very good, and its short (like 1/2 an hour).