Here's another perspective from a litte further up from the Pacific coast:
Rap: ruining dating one note at a time
By Gerry Bigelow
Gerry Bigelow
Off-notes: Another guy's observations on Juneau's dating scene
I've been a hip-hop music deejay for the last 20 years, so I have a pretty intimate relationship with the music.
I've heard it evolve from party rhymes over disco records to the cultural icon it has become. But what has surprised me the most is the effect rap music has had on the modern relationship.
It is not uncommon for a 20-something male to refer to his girlfriend as his "[censored]," often right there in front of her face. Then she will grin and return the endearment and refer to him as her "[censored]."
Now, I don't know where you grew up, but my momma would get on a plane just to slap my face for talking to my wife that way.
That's not where it ends. We are even borrowing the roles in our relationships from the likes of Snoop Dogg.
Every guy is a pimp now. I heard a 7-year-old white kid from Douglas tell me that he "didn't have no love for them hoes!"
"Popular music has caused digression back to the Neanderthal relationships of the past. I mean the ancient past, not the "sit and watch sports while she does the dishes" relationships of the last century.
I'm talking missing link, grayback gorilla relationships.
It's frightening to realize that we are back at the watering hole again. The local night club serves as the attraction. The males of the species stand around the perimeter of the dance floor, waiting for the alcohol to take effect so they can take away a female of the species to mate."
http://juneauempire.com/entertainment/stories/032907/sin_20100329018.shtml