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Gentlemen, please! Why all of the insults and nasty name-calling? This is embarrassing.
JTFE, from the start you felt personally offended by this thread. But the purpose of this thread was not to offend righteous individuals like yourself.
You are righteous, JTFE. I have the utmost respect and admiration for you. Why? Because G-d has severely tested you by giving you a sexual desire which is forbidden. And you are passing the test every day that you avoid indulging your sexual desire. That is very difficult to do, and I sincerely salute you. In my book, you're a hero.
If you recall, JTFE, everyone on this forum was very supportive and expressed admiration for you when you revealed to us the test that you have in your life. No one hated you or looked down at you, G-d forbid. On the contrary, every moral person should look up to you.
JTFE, you should not take threads like this personally. They are not aimed at you. They are aimed at convincing active homosexuals to change their nightmarish existence. BTW, sinful heterosexuals also have a nightmarish existence.
Muman, JTFE lashed out because he felt personally offended by this thread. I think you should have responded the way I did - with ahavat yisrael (love of one's fellow Jews). To try to humiliate JTFE for his past actions is not the Torah way. To publicly shame someone who has changed their ways is like trying to shame a baal tshuva. To repeatedly state that JTFE is defending the gay lifestyle is untrue and unfair. Even if JTFE lashed out, I believe that you should have responded with understanding.
When we all learn to rise above our personal hurt feelings and our egos (all of us, myself included), this will be a much better world.
I hope that JTFE and Muman can be friends. Whether they like it or not, they are brothers.