Sex out of wedlock with a Jewess, that doesn't lead to marriage, for a Torah Jew, is something that is frowned on upon Halachically.
An unmarried old bochur who has kept himself pure and virginal should be proud of his virginity. The Zohar Chadash says that if a man has reached 50 unmarried, provided that he has guarded his bris, will have a special power that those whom he curses will be smitten.
Those born 1956-57 are known to be a special lot astrologically, and are Men of Destiny: Osama bin Laden, Ahmedinajad, Sarkozy, Bruce Willis, Tom Hanks, Chaim......!