I just read this and for the life of me cannot understand why this man, when he was alive, had such a bad 'rap.' His letter to the potential Gentile partner comes from a deeply respectful, kind decent, and pro-Gentile, pro-human perspective. I have seen so many conversions that are exactly as he describes, totally selfish and without any meaning at all. I have often thought why does this person think that they have a right to ask another person to change part of who they are to fit into something that the Jewish person doesn't really value anyway. I've always chalked it up to, "well they are doing it to please the parents" with a passive kind of 'so be it' attitude. But as the Rabbi points out that is entirely wrong, completely selfish and ultimately really a move that is a move in the direction of making future generations "a Jew in name only."