Do you condemn pre-marital sex? Does your rabbi?
I don't condemn it, but I don't advocate it either...
My brain is in evil times so let me rationalize my point of view of it in today's time:
If there were no pre-marital sex, then people shoudl get married younger or else there is a chance that more evil can erupt from within the frustration.
On the other hand, our society is dirty and that may be the reason why.
And you might say, if one studies Torah, he/she won't be as tempted. I might say, not all people study Torah.
I will add, however, that pre-marital sex can lead to even more evil especially with most human beings. Especially human beings who didn't have good strong parents. I'm lucky to have the best parents a guy like me could have...
However, I will say one thing. It is much much more important to teach your children and yourselves if you are virgins to not practice pre-marital sex. It's much harder to be celebate once you had sex once. Stay a virgin for as long as you can.
I will add, I think women should definately stay virgins since they can marry younger...It is good for men to be virgins too...but shouldn't be as necessary. However every good man should treat a girl he is dating like he woudl want his daughter to be treated.
Sex should only be between two people who really really really love each other..and it is better if they wait till they get married.
So you see, in evil times, my brain is confused
I think my rabbi disagrees with pre-marital sex. He knows it goes on. He knows that it can lead to trouble. But does he condemn it? I think he only advices against it especially to young people who are most vulnerable to it.