I can't say that I understand why Iranian Jews would eschew all politial involvement just because of the brutal repression back in Iran. I mean--they came to America to flee that savagery, right? They ought to have some level of faith in American leaders by now. Do they actually fear that there could be a Shoah in America if they don't keep their views to themselves, or what? No offense, but it doesn't make much sense to me.
I think the Iranian Jews, like the Ashanazis have become cynical from experience. They've seen how Jews get scapegoated for things that aren't their fault. So they keep a low profile. That's not to say they don't appreciate being here. But they're not that trusting.
Now for your second question...I was born and raised in the U.S. When I was growing up, there were very few Iranian Jewish families in Great Neck. So my parents would not have had a leg to stand on if they had told me not to be friends with other Americans. It also helps that I have two older sisters, one of whom married an American Ashkenaz.
But now Great Neck has changed. It has probably the largest Jewish Iranian population in America. And most of them came here right after the revolution, together. So they already have a group to socialize with, work with and pray with. In fact, many Mashadi's are very strict about who their children can be friends with, or marry. (At my age, my parents would be happy with me marrying anyone, as long as it would be a Jew.)
And I was always a shy person. I never had large groups of friends. One of my sisters went away to college, and I followed in her footsteps. But I used to be more liberal when I was younger.
My shift to the right began in my early thirties. It started when I read Ayn Rand's Magnum Opus Atlas Shrugged, and got into full swing when I stumbled upon Chaim Ben Pesach on Manhattan Neighborhood Network public television.
Throughout this time, I found that I enjoyed writing. The story of how I decided to start blogging is for another post. But suffice it to say my parents think it's a waste of time, and that I should be focusing on more lucrative pursuits, along with finding a husband.