I finished serveing in the IDF, and i think there's no excuse for not recruiting and Not taking part in Israel's wars (while others are dying).
only when the time comes for removing Jews from their homes, you should alway's refuse orders and sit in the Military Prison for a month or so (I sat there as well, it's not that bad).
In my opinion, there is no excuse for not serving in the army when you call yourself a patriot. It is irresponsible, selfish and childish.
Only you have to bear in mind that you will have to refuse orders that are hostile to your fellow Jews. Also, you will likely be exposed to various forms of anti-Jewish behaviour that will upset you. It is not easy, it takes courage and dedication to go through all this. May HaShem bless all the brave Israeli Jews who serve in the Israeli army and manage to remain true and loyal Jews while they are doing their military duty. THEY are the backbone of Israel, not the deserters who make Israel an easy prey for the Arab ennemies.
The IDF should have no penalties for Jews who refuse to do things against Halakcha. I think Haredi [and all Israelis] should be required to serve in the IDF, provided they do not get put in a situation that has them going against Halakcha [if its good enough for Joshua and Caleb, King David, the Maccabees, and Rabbi Akiva and Bar Kovah, its good enough for all adherents of Ultra Orthodox Judaism]. I also think that 1 year in a Yeshiva, after high school, getting a "maximal" education in Judaism should be required before going into the IDF. The IDF needs to be purged of disgusting anti-Jewish, complete failures of human beings, and miscreants like Ehud Brog [are we sure this guy is even Jewish?!?!].
Of course I think Israel should be run by the moral Torah, Tanakh, Talmud, and Halakcha in the first place [and the Bolsheviks sent back to Europe where they belong].
Joining the IDF is not defending Israel.
In almost every country in the Exile in which Jews lived, although the persecutions and the anti-Semitism, and
although they were second class citien - the government's army was defending the Jews the same way it was
defending other citizens.
For example, in Soviet Russia, Stalin made sure to evacuate millions (!) of Jews from the territories the Nazis
occupied, thus saving them from certain death.
Now, does it mean that a Jew who recruited to the Red Army is actually doing a "Mitzvaht Aseh" (A positive commandment)
from the Torah (Milchemet Mitzvah L'Ezrat Israel Me'yad Tzar Ha'aba Ale'hem - A Commanded war of helping Israel against
those who come to slay them)? maybe. But, it certainely doesn't mean that the Communist army was a Jewish army of which
whole purpose was to defend Jews.
It goes the same way with the IDF. Even though the IDF really prevents terrorist attacks (sometimes) and kills terrorists (sometimes),
but the army still doesn't have criterias for a Jewish army is supposed to have.
- The IDF harasses the Jews from Judea and Samaria, and works like a neutral army - if not worse.
- the IDF is the first army since the Wehrmacht that violently expelled Jews from their houses.
- the IDF is the army that abandons its soldiers to die for the sake of the idol worship called "purity of arms" (defending
Arab Nazi so-called "citizens" even with the cost of Jewish lives).
- the IDF uses massive Bolshevik brainwash on every recruiter in special education sessions.
- the IDF has Arab and Druze officers who are not loyal to the Jewish people at all.
- the Commanders of the military are apostates such as Dan Chalutz who is a declared Atheist, and do not stand for the values of the Jewish people.
- according to the rules, an Arab can also be a commander in chief (chief of general staff). Then, even the most brainwashed would have problems
calling this army a Jewish army.
If you say a Jewish army is an army of which most recrutiers who serve in it are children of a Jewish mother - then yes, you are right - the IDF is a Jewish army.
But if you say a Jewish army is a army that serves the interests of the Jewish people as they are defined in the Torah, then the answer is a big NO -
the IDF is not a Jewish army at all.