AsheDina, your post was great too.
The fact is, men and women are not the same. Their brains are wired differently in some respects. Here's one example.
Let's say I were to have a very bad day. And let's say after I got home, I was to call up a girl friend to tell her about, and to let off steam. The two of us would probably be on the phone for an hour. The girl friend might say stuff like "seriously?" Or "what a [censored]!" She would commiserate basically.
If I were to call up a male friend and tell him about my bad day, he would most likely say to me "Lisa, you need to do x, y and z, then you'll have no more problems." And that would be the end of the discussion. Never mind that I might want to continue letting off steam.