i don't know much about love and that stuff, but mayby it's G-D's way of preventing you from marrying someone you should not be-as she might be a bad person, or just the fact that G-D has other plans for you, like a BETTER wife-to-be. Just my idea.
Thanks. I appreciate the remarks as well as Shadow's remarks. You guys might be right. Yet I still learned a lesson not to repeat the mistake I made. I feel a bit bold and vulnerable actually revealing what I said which led to the misunderstanding. When the check came, she took out her wallet to pay and I took my wallet out at the same time. I was a bit confused at this moment and then asked how she wants to handle it. She said, "It's up to you." I wasn't sure exactly what she meant or what she wanted. All I wanted to do was give her what she wanted. I had no problem paying, but didn't want to take away her choice if she wanted to chip in as well. So I said something to the extent that I would pay it this time and that if we have a second date and if she wanted to help out then, then she could chip in then. She took this to mean that me paying the check right then and there was contingent on whether or not we were gonna have a second date. I said, "No, no! It's the other way around!" She let out this really snide laugh which scared the living crap out of me. I just said, "No, it's no problem!" I paid the whole check, including the tip without asking anything from her. I thought and really hoped the matter was settled. But apparently, the next day, that was the issue that cost me everything. Before I stumbled, she was extremely amorous with everything she said to me, never had such a beautiful woman be so amorous like this and then just to have it fall apart in an instant like this. I know I missed a critical cue and said something really stupid and beat myself over it for the longest time. But needless to say, I learned a valuable lesson whenever I go out on a first date with a girl, I just go ahead and take the initiative to pay without uttering a word. If the girl really wants to pay, then she can object and stop me. But I learned that taking on a wait and see attitude, which I previously thought was the proper and respectable thing to do, could lead to misunderstandings and could be destructive. So perhaps she overreacted and this could be a sign that she wasn't right for me. Yet at the same time, I realize that this type of mistake that I made still has the potential of instantly ruining a first date and any chance I have with any girl, and know better how to avoid that pitfall. My G-d, have I spilled too much?