See that's the thing with intentions again. While you can pitch loving G-d as the intention of not seeing women, I don't think G-d asked you to do that nor tells people to avoid women. Avoid doing bad. Go in front of these women. Observe your mind. If something depraved shows up, figure out what it is. Now you're level 3.
You are not correct. The Torah clearly says that a man should not have immodest thoughts. What you are saying is strictly your opinion only and it runs contrary to the Torah. I really think you are not well enough versed in the teachings of the Torah to make such a statement as you made above.
The relationship between a man and a woman is sacred and not something which can be trivialized {although you try over and over to do so}. The husband wife relationship IS HARMED when a mans thoughts are drawn toward illicit thoughts. The actions are bad, but the thoughts are bad also.
No man is permitted to be alone with a woman he is not married to... Examine the laws of Yichud... Why do we have these laws if it is A-OK for men and women who are not related to be together? Because according to our belief it is not proper for men and women to co-mingle and do-what-they-want together.
http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/3246/jewish/Why-Is-Torah-Law-So-Restrictive-of-Contact-Between-the-Genders.htm
Why Is Torah Law So Restrictive of Contact Between the Genders?By Manis FriedmanI understand that Torah law forbids all physical contact between a man and a woman -- or even for them to be alone in a room together -- unless they are first-degree relatives or married to each other. This applies to any man and any woman, regardless of their ages or whether or not they are sexually attracted to each other. And then there are all those rules about "modest" dress. Isn't that carrying it a bit far? Are we really such animals?
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When a man and woman are together in a room, and the door closes, that is a sexual event. Not because of what is going to happen, but what has already happened. It may not be something to make novels of, but it is a sexual occurrence, because male and female is what sexuality used to be all about.
It is true that in our world today, in the "free world" certainly, people have, on the whole, stopped thinking in these terms. What happened was that we started putting up all these defenses, getting steeled, inured, against the constant exposure and stimulation of men and women sharing all sorts of activities -- co-educational school, camps, gyms -- is that we started blocking out groups of people. We can't be as naturally sexual as G-d created us to be. When a man says, "I have a woman friend, but we're just friends, nothing more, I'm not attracted to her in any sexual way, she's not my type," you've got to ask yourself what is really going on here. Is this a disciplined person? Or is this a person who has died a little bit?
What does he mean "she's not my type?" When did all this typing come into existence? It's all artificial. It's not true to human sexuality. And it really isn't even true in this particular context because given a slight change of circumstance, you could very easily be attracted. After all, you are a male, she's a female. How many times does a relationship begin that is casual, neighborly, and then suddenly becomes intimate? The great awakening of this boy and girl who are running around, doing all sorts of things, sharing all sorts of activities, and lo and behold, they realize -- what drama, what drama -- that they are attracted to each other. These are grown-ups, intelligent human beings, and it caught them by surprise. It's kind of silly.
So closing a door should be recognized as a sexual event. And you need to ask yourself: Are you prepared for this? Is it permissible? Is it proper? If not, leave the door open. Should men and women shake hands? Should it be seen as an intimate gesture? Should any physical contact that is friendly be considered intimate? Hopefully, it should.
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http://www.sichosinenglish.org/books/the-laws-of-yichud/05.htmA. The Definition of Yichud
Yichud is defined as the seclusion of a man with a woman.[23] Such seclusion is prohibited even for a short while.[24]
B. The Reason for the Prohibition of Yichud
The seclusion of a man and a woman is the first step towards a forbidden relationship; hence, the Torah forbids Yichud. However, let it be made absolutely clear that if a man and a woman are in a Yichud situation, even though nothing improper takes place, they are still in violation of the prohibition of Yichud.[25]
Even if a person is "absolutely sure" of him/herself, believing that "nothing will happen," there still exists a serious prohibition of Yichud. Furthermore, there is a rule: "There is no guarantee when it comes to Arayos." When a person places himself in a Yichud situation, the Yetzer Hara is extremely powerful, and no person can be absolutely sure that under such conditions he or she will withstand temptation.
C. Where is Yichud Prohibited?
Yichud is not only prohibited in a closed room or house, but Yichud also applies in any secluded area such as a quiet country spot, beach, park or forest. As long as the man and woman cannot be seen by other people and they are not afraid of intrusion, then Yichud applies.[26]
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